Surrender It All Or Walk Away


1 Corinthians 10:21

“You cannot drink the Lord’s cup and the demons’ cup. You cannot partake of the Lord’s table and the demons’ table.”


The Texas shooting has upset us all. Nearly a whole congregation of believers was lost. Believers. These were people who loved being in the presence of God in His house.


I prayed about this and this morning God begin to talk to me about the importance of God’s people being equally yoked.


We heard today that this man, who was married to a woman who is a Christian, went into that church because he thought her mother, his mother-in-law would be there. His mother in law was not there at that service, but her mother was. His wife’s grandmother was shot and killed by a man she was married to.


I am not going to blame anyone. This is not the time for that. I do want you to know that when we go outside of our beliefs and partner with someone who is not a believer we are in the midst of Satan’s’ territory. When you are in enemy territory do not be surprised when you are attacked.


Yes, I know that life is hard and it gets lonely. But we cannot have it both ways. We either live for the Lord, or we live for Satan. Our home is not this world and as Billy Graham once said, “We are just passing through.”


We in the church have let ourselves be bullied into keeping our mouths shut. We do it with our own children. We want them to be happy and we love them and so we try to justify the things they do that are outside of the will of God. We think that if we are too hard on them we will lose their presence in our lives and we don’t want that to happen.


The church, as a whole, has compromised with sin. When was the last time you heard a sermon about hell? You haven’t. Instead we give feel good sermons, that people like hearing. We end up being motivational speakers. God forbid anyone should leave church under conviction of sin. Pastors have expenses. Bills don’t get paid unless you have a full congregation.


Yes, we have to love people. We have to love them unconditionally, but we need to make sure to let them know what the Word says. If we fail to do so then their blood is going to be on our hands on judgment day.


We have brought sin into the church and we have sat down and had dinner with it. Satan has been clever, and he has played on our heartstrings to the point we don’t let people know of consequences of sin. We don’t let people know that God wants us to be equally yoked.


2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”


We have forgotten that bad company ruins good morals. We have a generation of young people who have never heard about God in their homes and have learned that it’s all about them and it’s all about how they feel in the moment. Some Christian’s homes have compromised the gospel and I see a lot of people who do not know right from wrong. They are confused and living confused lives.


We cannot pick and choose. Christianity is not a cafeteria. We can’t have a little of this and a little of that mixed in and then cry when we have consequences that are not pleasant.


I am not being judgmental. Just speaking what I feel is from God. I am sure during the time I was backslidden my own children were confused. When I completely surrendered to God I was pushed out of a couple of my grown children’s lives. They didn’t want to hear about God, and they sure thought I was no fun anymore when I wasn’t partying with them. I live with that, and it hurts just as you can imagine it does. The only thing that keeps me going is that I know, that I know, I can no longer live a compromised Christianity, no matter what it costs me.


Its time to either commit or walk away folks, because what we are seeing is a world of people who do not have a moral one and who kill, murder, and maim because they feel like it.


In His Unconditional love,

Cathie Miller


The Importance Of Being Equally Yoked


Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?

2 Corinthians 6:14

I get a lot of email from people regarding relationships. So in this blog I am going to give you a little of my God given discernment regarding a Christian’s choice of a mate, or a date, if you will.

Would it surprise you to know that I have counseled people who met someone they thought was a believer, at church, only to find out later that not everyone that goes to church is a Christian, no more then going in a garage makes you a car ?

About 15 years ago God begin to teach me about being equally yoked. For a long time I thought that if two people were saved they would be equally yoked in a relationship. Nothing could be further from the truth, beloved.

For example lets say that you are a strong believer. You have a personal relationship with God and because of that your life is lived in accordance with doing those things that please your Savior. You are not a heavy drinker, you don’t do drugs and you spend much time in prayer and bible study.

Now there is this person at work, or wherever, who claims to be a Christian. They are nice looking, intelligent and fun to be around. You ask them if they are Christian, and they tell you “yes!” Right away you start daydreaming that possibly this is the person God has sent into your life.

After awhile you begin to have signs that this person is not at the same spiritual level you are. They are still partying and they don’t spend any time in prayer and bible study. By now, you are hooked in and Satan convinces you that you are falling in love and so you over look all these red flags and convince yourself that you can lead this person closer to God. You are walking a dangerous path, Beloved. Now, Satan has you on his territory and all kinds of problems are raising their ugly heads.

Being equally yoked means that this person is at the same spiritual level that you are. God needs to be #1 in their life. God wants His children with people who worship him together, pray together and read the word together. Why? Because relationships are hard to maintain, but when two people are centered in God, then they are more apt to work things out, then walk away.

We cannot lead another person to Christ unless the Spirit of the living God has called them. No matter how much we want them to be saved, we cannot force it on them.

God gives us free will. He could, but does not, force any man or woman to accept Jesus. Why is that? Because it’s at the calling of the Holy Spirit that a man or woman is brought to Christ. God knows His sheep and we know Him. We cannot be assured that anyone who claims to know Christ really does just because they say they do. The bible tells us that we will know them by their fruits.

Perhaps they do know God, but they are backslidden. We can pray for them but until they are fully committed to Christ we do not need to have a relationship with them.

God has the perfect mate for each of us. A lot of us don’t want to wait for God’s man or woman. We try and turn someone into to God’s man or woman, who may not ever have been called by the Lord.

Right now, more then ever, God wants Godly marriages. We don’t have time to waste. I have noticed that God is putting people together to minister. Nothing will ruin your ministry faster then an unbelieving spouse, or a “half-baked” Christian spouse.

When we have a lot of problems in relationships, our eyes get turned off of God and we spend all our time in emotional turmoil.

Sometimes people tell me “Well this person was so gorgeous, or so good looking, that I got turned away from good sense.” Let me put it to you this way, even if you like hot fudge sundaes, if you eat one everyday, they eventually get old. Do yourself a favor and wait. There are great looking Christian men and women too. You just have to wait and pray until God brings them to you. Trust me, God will!

I have had good relationships and disastrous relationships. I learned a lot by going down the wrong roads in life. I now try to counsel others before they “go there.”

Before I met my husband I quit dating for five years. I prayed and put my relationship with God first. At the end of those five years, when I had made myself ready, God brought His man to me. I made a list of everything I wanted in a Christian man, and I didn’t settle until I got it. Even so, the first two years of our marriage was hard. I had been single for years and my husband had been single for 17 years. We were both set in our ways, and if it had not been for God smoothing the way we might not have made it. I had a “spirit of imaginations,” due to all the dysfunctional relationships I had been in. I often imagined my husband saying and doing things that he didn’t, just because others had. God delivered me from that, miraculously. He can do it for you too!

Be careful that you do not compromise in relationships. The hour is short and Satan will stop at nothing to get an inroad to your life. If you are not careful in choosing a mate you are on Satan’s territory and do not be surprised when you get hurt.

Hold out for a real Christian, with a real relationship with the Lord! If you need someone to agree with you in prayer, email me and I will become your prayer partner!

In His Unconditional Love,