Are So-Called Friends Becoming A Burden?

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“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24

 

Do you have a lot of friends?  Are they real friends, friends that will quit what they are doing and come running when you are in need?

 

It’s wonderful to have friends that are loyal to you, but how about you? Is it all about you or do you take time to ask someone “How are you doing?” prior to launching into a conversation regarding all your troubles?

 

If you are only concerned with your own problems you will not be able to keep many friends in life. Sooner or later we recognize, “Takers” because they take, take and take from us but are never there for us.

 

I find it interesting that when we finally decide we no longer want these takers in our lives that they act as if they don’t have a clue as to why they lost our friendship. They cannot stand the fact that they no longer have someone around to use as an emotional scapegoat. They then get paranoid,about all the things you know about them, and set out to start turning their friends and family member against you.

 

Isn’t it amazing that people no longer talk to you because of the evilness of other people? I used to let it bother me, but not anymore. At my age, I let it go. I try to ignore them. I go on with my life.

 

These people need to develop a relationship with Jesus. I have found that Jesus never leaves us and never forsakes us. Jesus is there for us and is on “duty” for us 24/7.

 

If you find yourself losing friends take your own inventory. Do you invest as much time into that friend as they invest into you? If not you need to change. If you cannot quit telling your problems to someone then get a counselor. As counselors we break the law by sharing the secrets of those we have counseled with.

 

Once you try to ignore these people they then send their “Flying Monkeys” after you.” I was shocked one day when an ex friends mother attacked me online as I made a comment on someone’s FB page. It was mean, it was cruel and not the truth. She had been listening to my “ex” friend and believed everything that she had heard. I then blocked them both. She was telling someone that I was not a “real” friend. What was sad about that was that I had given the woman’s grandson money when he was in need. I guess she had forgotten about that.

 

Sometimes you get disappointed with a friend. If it’s a one-time thing, talk it out and don’t let it break your friendship. But if it continues to happen then let the person go. We become like those we spend the most time with. Unless you want to become a whiner too, it’s best to let the person go. Pray for them, but let them go. Life is too short to be burdened with someone else’s problems daily. You too have problems and if they continue to dump on you don’t be surprised if you find yourself getting depressed, and angry, for no apparent reason. Like sponges we absorb a lot of other people’s emotions.

 

Find positive, happy people who love God. Find people who will pray for you when you need it. Find people who call you occasionally and ask you, “How are you doing, I was thinking about you!”

 

If you are anxious and stressed today, look around you. It might not be you but someone whom you are spending a lot of time with that is draining you. These people are so low on energy that they literally drain those around them. It’s not always you, but instead those who you surround yourself with.

 

In God’s Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Controllng Your Anger

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When we respond to things we do not like, or things that trigger us, with anger, bitterness and rebellion our lives are out of control. I am not talking about an occasional time of losing our temper, because we all do that. I am talking about a life that includes uncontrollable behavior on a daily basis.

 

First we have to be willing to change, and then we have to ask God to help us. If we could change on our own we would do it. We need the supernatural power of God to help us overcome our triggers.

 

In the gospel of Mark we see the power of Jesus displayed over and over again.

 

Jesus raised the dead, gave sight to the blind, restored deformed limbs, made lame people walk, cast out demons, healed incurable skin diseases, and quieted storms.

 

Jesus is a powerful savior and He is able to do the impossible when we ask Him to do so. Jesus came to help us. We know that because of His painful death on the cross of Calvary, which he endured so that He could free us from our bondages to sin and give us eternal life.

 

The problem we have is that we like to appear to be strong and handle things ourselves. We usually don’t go to Jesus for help until we have exhausted all others means of help.

 

He is much more powerful then any of our dependencies, problems and weaknesses. He has the power to help us with any problem we have that seems impossible. All we have to do is look to Him and say, “HELP!”

 

We ask for His help, in the name of Jesus. The powerful name of Jesus is miraculous. I cannot tell you the times I call on that name when things are seemingly too hard for me to bear. Truthfully, He has never let me down. When I come to Him He wipes my tears and gives me strength to get through any circumstance.

 

Come to Him today, Beloved. Decide not to spend another day responding to things the way you always have responded to things. If your method worked you would be free of anger, bitterness and a bad temper. He is waiting for you to ask for His help!

 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

 

Regarding Suicide

Before I start my story let’s get this out of the way, yes I know life can get hard sometimes and I have compassion for those who feel like quitting. I know that sometimes the pain gets to be too much and that sometimes the person in pain just wants it all to end. Having said that let me show you the other side of suicide.

In my humble opinion suicide is the ultimate Narcissistic act. It’s the person saying my pain is more intense then my love for you, my child, my parents, my siblings or my partner. It’s a lifetime sentence for the people left behind.

Some of you know that God works through me in mystical ways. I don’t like the word mystic but it’s my only way to explain it to folks who don’t understand the gifts of the Holy Spirit, so please bear with me.

One day many years ago, while doing spiritual counseling with a client, I saw first hand the aftermath of suicide. The woman sitting in front of me was a physical therapist at a facility that I too worked at. I knew nothing about her but that.

Immediately, as she sat down, God showed me a very agitated woman standing in back of the physical therapist. I tried to ignore it but the woman kept agitating. Finally I stopped long enough to hear the woman say, over and over, “Tell her I am sorry, tell her I am sorry, tell her I am sorry!”

I said to the PT, “ I am sorry but before we go any farther there is a woman standing in back of you repeating over and over, “Tell her I am sorry.”

The PT’s eyes got big and she started to cry. Huge body wracking sobs were coming out of her. I was taken a back, and stood up to go comfort her by giving her a hug. She just collapsed into that hug like a child whose heart had been broken in a million pieces.

When she finally gathered her composure she told me the following; “You don’t know this but when I was 12 years old my mother shot and killed herself in front of me and my two younger brothers. I have wondered my whole life if she had any idea of the pain she was causing me, and my brothers, in order that she could escape her own pain. You have just given me the closure I never had!”

My entire life I have not forgotten that particular counseling session. The pain that poor woman had inflicted upon her by her own mother was simply overwhelming. It shaped my whole opinion on suicide from that day forth.

Please, if you feel suicidal, consider the pain you are transferring from yourself to your loved ones and get help.

As Christians we are reminded of the scripture, “The Lord giveth life and the Lord taketh life, blessed be the Name of The Lord!” God gave us our lives and only he has a right to take it. There is a time appointed for each of us to die. When we commit suicide we show that we think that we, and we alone, have the right to decide when to die. We play God.

I know it hurts but find someone to counsel with and get help! God has a better plan for your life and Satan wants to disrupt that plan through death. Start praying for God to help you and He will! What you may see as the end of your life is actually a doorway to a new beginning!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Catching Fish/For Fishers Of Men

 

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Ministry is a serious covenant between those of us who serve him and God. We cannot take time off from that covenant to “do our own thing.” People are watching. When we go astray, there needs to be a time of repentance and recommitment. We may think no one see’s our secret sins, but trust me when I say God gives discernment to others. They know. We are in no position to teach others when we ourselves are far from perfect. God will restore us. But we need to be honest about our shortcomings. Too many today are telling others to stay free from sin when they are doing it themselves.

Therefore thus says the LORD God of Israel concerning the shepherds who are tending My people: “You have scattered My flock and driven them away, and have not attended to them; behold, I am about to attend to you for the evil of your deeds,” declares the LORD.…

New Living Translation
“Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds, the leaders of Israel. Give them this message from the Sovereign LORD: What sorrow awaits you shepherds who feed yourselves instead of your flocks. Shouldn’t shepherds feed their sheep? Ezekiel 34:2

in His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Coffee With Cathie 05/12/2018

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You can not turn an apple into a peach and you wouldn’t want to. An apple appeals more to some and visa versa. Each one of us was chosen, by God, to reach certain people. The apostles ,and known followers of Jesus,had diverse backgrounds. I think Paul’s background, as a dreaded tax collector, prepared him for working with hostile people. 

This past week with the Lord, for me, has been both mystical and educational.

More and more the gifts he gave us are coming to the forefront and accelerating. 

It’s important to remember that we all have our place in the body. If we try to operate in someone else’s anointing, that we admire, it won’t work. As an example I might want to preach, but unfortunately that’s not my anointing. God has anointed me for working with people one on one. If I decided to preach it wouldn’t succeed. I would be out of my anointing and it would show!

Sometimes, God shows me clearly what it going on with someone and the outcome of it. I then have to use extra discernment because some people can handle the truth and others cannot. Usually I file it in my mind unless they ASK for advice.

Whatever your anointing is God is going to start using you in ever greater ways. Quickly and to the point. Time is short. There is no time to beat around the bush. 

You will not resonate with everyone but God knows who you will resonate with and puts them in your path. Sometimes I will write something and only one person will comment on it, especially on my blog where I have a larger audience. God tells me that it’s okay. It may have been that one person needed that word. 

“1 Corinthians 12:12-27 New International Reader’s Version (NIRV)

One Body but Many Parts

12 There is one body, but it has many parts. But all its many parts make up one body. It is the same with Christ. 13 We were all baptized by one Holy Spirit. And so we are formed into one body. It didn’t matter whether we were Jews or Gentiles, slaves or free people. We were all given the same Spirit to drink. 14 So the body is not made up of just one part. It has many parts.

15 Suppose the foot says, “I am not a hand. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. 16 And suppose the ear says, “I am not an eye. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, how could it hear? If the whole body were an ear, how could it smell? 18 God has placed each part in the body just as he wanted it to be. 19 If all the parts were the same, how could there be a body? 20 As it is, there are many parts. But there is only one body.

21 The eye can’t say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 In fact, it is just the opposite. The parts of the body that seem to be weaker are the ones we can’t do without. 23 The parts that we think are less important we treat with special honor. The private parts aren’t shown. But they are treated with special care. 24 The parts that can be shown don’t need special care. But God has put together all the parts of the body. And he has given more honor to the parts that didn’t have any. 25 In that way, the parts of the body will not take sides. All of them will take care of one another. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it. If one part is honored, every part shares in its joy.

27 You are the body of Christ. Each one of you is a part of it.”

Have a blessed day in the Lord beloved!

Cathie 

A Word From God 05/08/18

“I need a people that live righteously in these last days. As much as you can, come away from the things of the world. When you walk into the places the world hangs out you literally “breathe in evil.” Those words, those pictures, those things that tempt you are downloaded into your mind. They give a foothold to the enemy.

 

Stay in places where you breathe in my Spirit. These are the places where you find peace, and serenity. In the secret places with me, you receive strength for the battle ahead.”

 

Finally, brothers, good-by. Aim for perfection, listen to my appeal, be of one mind, and live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11

Another Word From God For You 05/05/18

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“Awake from the deep sleep you are in. Look around you and listen to the sounds of silence. Do not be so easily taken in by things that people say. Words are just words until I breathe my Holy Spirit upon them.

 

Not every word you hear is a “God Word,” even though “So Called” Christians from Mega Ministries give it to you! The truth is not in them; I have not called them. They are drunk on the gold gleaned from the bank accounts of my people. They are not a bit different then the bankers on Wall Street, with their million dollar houses, and their BMW’s. They don’t get it yet. I have turned my back on them, and my favor is now with the unknown ministers to my people. Many of whom go hungry each day themselves.

 

Pray for discernment to separate the wheat from the tares, in these last, last days. Be willing to walk away from dead congregations. The time is too short to go over the same old things, over and over. Now is the time to minister to the hurting.

 

The patients are dying and screaming out in pain. They need a living WORD transfusion.”

 

“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. Matthew 7:21

Having A Hard Time Sleeping?

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Do you have a hard time sleeping because of worry thoughts that constantly bombard your mind? Do you finally get to sleep only to wake up early and toss and turn again with worry?

 

Worry starts, nine out of ten times, when we have done everything we know to do regarding a situation and we are frustrated because nothing seems to be “moving.” Bill collectors are still ringing our phones off the hook, we still don’t know how we will pay the house payment, much less our utilities…and then there is our car payment and without our car how are we going to get to work or look for a job…and on and on and on. Sometimes in my minds eye, at one time, I felt I could almost see Satan laughing hardily as I tossed and turned.

 

One night, as I struggled with all this worry it was as if God spoke to my heart “Cathie, are you trying to get my job?” I thought, “I don’t know what you mean Lord.” “Well, there is only one God, and that is ME!” God went on to impress on me that I was trying to do everything on my own. Finally it dawned on me that I was putting my trust in my own ability to solve my problems and not obeying God! Jesus says that if we are burdened and heavy-laden we should let Him take this upon Himself. (Matthew 11:28)

 

As people who profess to believe in God then shouldn’t we take Him at His word? Why is it that we don’t trust Him with everything? Nothing that we do will accomplish anything. Think about the last time you had a problem with worry. Did all your worrying accomplish anything? The bible says it is not “By power or by might, but by the SPIRIT” The problem is taken care of by the Holy Spirit if we can only trust Him with it. (Zechariah 4:6)

 

The bible tells us that when the Holy Spirit comes He, and He alone will lead us into all truth. We need to get to the point in life where when we pray about something we leave it at the foot of the cross with calm assurance that God will give us answers. Sometimes He brings someone in your life to help you, sometimes you get a “God Inspired” idea, and at other times God sends an Angel before you to give you favor with your bill collectors. I don’t know how He will do it for you, but I know He will!

 

When I was first trying to get over my worry thoughts I was in a Goodwill store and ran across some cassette tapes that helped me greatly. One of the tapes was an old one entitled “Binding Fear and Anxiety.” The minister that made the tape quoted nothing but sixty minutes of scriptures regarding faith. I played it over and over and I experienced God’s touch in many areas of my life. For one thing Satan was no longer able to bombard my mind with worry thoughts. I used a headphone and all other noise left as I let Gods Word minister to me. I would advise you to look for scripture tapes online, or make your own tape. Filling my mind with the Word changed my life. Desperate times call for desperate measures. For me, God led me this way to renew my mind. God will do the same for you!

 

In closing remember the Word, “The God who watches over Israel neither sleeps nor slumbers.” God is up all night. He works the night shift for you. Release your worry, give it to God and watch Him work supernatural miracles in your behalf.

 

 

Coffee With Cathie 5/04/2018

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What a beautiful sunny morning we woke up to! 

Lately God has been sending very mature Christian friends my way online. I am thrilled about that and praise God for them. In prayer this morning I asked God about it. His answer seemed to be that as demonic activity increases we will be needing to stick together in greater ways then ever! We need to continue to back each other up in prayer as those on the front lines are being buffeted by demonic activity more then we ever have been. 

There seems to be no basic manners anymore. There is no restraint. People say what ever comes into their minds and then act surprised when others are upset with them. In most things God has told me to watch my mouth and stay silent. It isn’t worth engaging with these people. We have read the book and know who wins in the end.

John 15:19 

If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.

John 18:36 

Jesus answered, “My kingdom is not of this world. If my kingdom were of this world, my servants would have been fighting, that I might not be delivered over to the Jews. But my kingdom is not from the world.”

Enjoy your coffee today with the calm assurance that He is still on the throne and His will WILL be done!

PS. God has shown me that things will be revealed this month. People that have been hiding bad motives will be exposed and the truth will come out. Be prepared to be shocked!

Finances are turning around. God is promoting people into greater areas of responsibility. Those who have been sitting in the shadows will now be seen by many in a greater arena of influence. 

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Have a blessed day,

Cathie

The Secret Of Living Joyfully In The Valley Or Up On The Mountain Top

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Jesus called out to them, “Come, follow me, and I will show you how to fish for people!”

Matthew 4:9

 

The bible tells us that Jesus recruited the disciples at their place of work, where ever that was.

 

In the case of Peter and his brother Andrew, when He called to them the bible tells us “at once they left their nets and followed Him.”

 

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we really considered our lives each and every day, and realized that it’s not “all about me?”

 

But the trouble is that most of us view our lives as our own. We don’t consider that if God had a plan for us, from the beginning of time, and that plan involved working for Him. As we do the work that He called us for, in our homes, our communities and our places of unemployment, He then puts His plans into motion, right where we are.

 

I once had a job I was not fond of, but times were tough and jobs were hard to come by. I would get up in the morning, slowly, dreading to go to my place of employment. I prayed about it and one day, while seeking the Lord, I heard the still small voice in my head that said, “You aren’t really working for that company, you are working for me.”

 

I began to meditate on that. Slowly, I began to realize that God was speaking a truth to my heart. I began to see that God wanted me to be a beacon of love and light in that crazy environment. I then began to walk into work with a happy heart, as I saw my work as that of the Lord, and not all about me. By the time I finally moved on to another department their I had seen God use me to pray with fellow co-workers, minister to them and see a couple of them come to know God as Lord of their lives.

 

So where are you today? Do you dislike your situation? Are you frustrated in the way your life is going. What would happen if you simply sat down and ask the Lord how you can best serve Him in the midst of your circumstances.

 

Maybe you just need a plan. Maybe you need to quit obsessing over your own problems and look around to see how you can make a difference in the life of someone else.

 

If when we are laid off, we can still let the Lord use us. We can pray for others, we can go serve soup at a soup kitchen, and we can cheer the life of others we meet in our daily lives. The very idea that we can be happy in the midst of our circumstances is a silent testimony for God.

 

We all get depressed from time to time. The problem comes when we dwell in depression. I stayed in depression for years, until God delivered me. The battle with depression is in the mind. When we start feeling sorry for ourselves, we go into major discouragement. I learned, through the Word, that God wanted to deliver me from dwelling on my own problems and myself all the time. Self-pity comes from dwelling on what’s wrong in our lives and then obsessing on it day and night. When Satan plays, like that, with our minds nothing changes and He has us where He wants us. We can choose today to not sit with depression. Instead we can step out in our gift to help others. Even if it’s only to smile and them!

 

The secret to living life is to not be entangled in the daily circumstances, whether they are good or bad at the moment. In Philippians 4:11 Paul says the following; I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.

 

In life we will have good and bad circumstances. Our goal is to live in peace and serenity no matter what the circumstances. When we reach that level of faith, our whole life changes for the better.

 

Father, it’s not easy living in these times. Problems, of all sorts, abound on each and every side and we are sometimes like a tiny boat being tossed unmercifully about by the storms of life. Keep us steady, and happy no matter what our circumstances may be. Help us to remember it’s “All about YOU.” It’s not “all about US.” In Your Name, the Name above all names. Amen and Amen