Are So-Called Friends Becoming A Burden?

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“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24

 

Do you have a lot of friends?  Are they real friends, friends that will quit what they are doing and come running when you are in need?

 

It’s wonderful to have friends that are loyal to you, but how about you? Is it all about you or do you take time to ask someone “How are you doing?” prior to launching into a conversation regarding all your troubles?

 

If you are only concerned with your own problems you will not be able to keep many friends in life. Sooner or later we recognize, “Takers” because they take, take and take from us but are never there for us.

 

I find it interesting that when we finally decide we no longer want these takers in our lives that they act as if they don’t have a clue as to why they lost our friendship. They cannot stand the fact that they no longer have someone around to use as an emotional scapegoat. They then get paranoid,about all the things you know about them, and set out to start turning their friends and family member against you.

 

Isn’t it amazing that people no longer talk to you because of the evilness of other people? I used to let it bother me, but not anymore. At my age, I let it go. I try to ignore them. I go on with my life.

 

These people need to develop a relationship with Jesus. I have found that Jesus never leaves us and never forsakes us. Jesus is there for us and is on “duty” for us 24/7.

 

If you find yourself losing friends take your own inventory. Do you invest as much time into that friend as they invest into you? If not you need to change. If you cannot quit telling your problems to someone then get a counselor. As counselors we break the law by sharing the secrets of those we have counseled with.

 

Once you try to ignore these people they then send their “Flying Monkeys” after you.” I was shocked one day when an ex friends mother attacked me online as I made a comment on someone’s FB page. It was mean, it was cruel and not the truth. She had been listening to my “ex” friend and believed everything that she had heard. I then blocked them both. She was telling someone that I was not a “real” friend. What was sad about that was that I had given the woman’s grandson money when he was in need. I guess she had forgotten about that.

 

Sometimes you get disappointed with a friend. If it’s a one-time thing, talk it out and don’t let it break your friendship. But if it continues to happen then let the person go. We become like those we spend the most time with. Unless you want to become a whiner too, it’s best to let the person go. Pray for them, but let them go. Life is too short to be burdened with someone else’s problems daily. You too have problems and if they continue to dump on you don’t be surprised if you find yourself getting depressed, and angry, for no apparent reason. Like sponges we absorb a lot of other people’s emotions.

 

Find positive, happy people who love God. Find people who will pray for you when you need it. Find people who call you occasionally and ask you, “How are you doing, I was thinking about you!”

 

If you are anxious and stressed today, look around you. It might not be you but someone whom you are spending a lot of time with that is draining you. These people are so low on energy that they literally drain those around them. It’s not always you, but instead those who you surround yourself with.

 

In God’s Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Pride Born Of Hurt Delays Our Help

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9“Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! Matthew 7:9-11

 

My father was a man with a heart like God’s. The sad fact is though, with rampant divorce rates, a lot of people didn’t really know their fathers. If they did know about him they often learned that they couldn’t trust him. So because of that, a whole lot of folks have a hard time trusting God.

 

We may have grown up in a family where our needs were ignored, for one reason or another. Perhaps our needs were seldom met. The way we handled it was to get very self-sufficient. We may have felt that no one helped us anyway and so we learned, unfortunately, to never ask for help. In fact, we decided to strive to never ask anyone for another thing as long as we lived!

 

This is a source of pride, born of deep hurt. This is the type of pride that often keeps us from going to Daddy God for help. We don’t ask Him to help with our shortcomings either because often we were verbally abused to the point where we started believing we were stupid, or unwanted, and so we learned to keep our problems to ourselves and not trust anyone.

 

Jesus said, “And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking and you will find. Keep on knocking and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks the door will be opened.” Luke 11:9-10.

 

Beloved do you find yourself in a bad situation today? Are you anxious worry about how you are possibly going to make it? This is the time to give up our pride and our self-sufficiency. We must be willing to ask for help. We can’t ask for help once or twice and then be done with asking. There are times when we have to ask, ask again and keep on asking.

 

I have had times when I thought I would not make it. I still have times that I think I might not make it, but God has always come through. Nothing will keep Him from coming through for us, again and again. Sometimes He will speak to us what we should do, and where we should go for help. Sometimes He will put it on someone’s mind to help us. But, I tell you truthfully, when you humble yourself, lay down your pride and ask, God will help you.

 

Tell people the truth. Drop your pride and ask for help when you need it. I know it’s hard but people are willing to help when you ask in sincerity for help for you and/or your family.

 

Pride born of hurt and disappointment can lead to our downfall. Once we ask, as any loving parent, God will help or send help. Sometimes I believe God waits to see if we will put our hurt and pride behind us and ask. We have to, as hard as it is, leave the past in the past. We have to walk forward, one day at a time, and one step at a time, and as we learn to live for Christ, putting our addiction to feeling sorry for ourselves behind us. God will open doors miraculously and people will step forward and help.

 

One more thing I have learned is that nine out of ten times my help didn’t come from the people I thought, in the natural, could help me. It’s not the rich that usually help. It’s more often people who have been in the same place as we are and now like to help others in the way that God helped them. This is why God says it’s harder for a rich man to get into heaven then a camel to go through a needles eye. Some people, who have money here on this earth, are not givers. One day the Lord spoke to my heart that those are the ones who will not be in heaven. Let them enjoy it here, because they cannot take it with them and they won’t need it where we are going!

 

Don’t get preconceived notions about where your help will come from. God will surprise you. The thing is, you just have to ask Him for wisdom and keep asking. He will not fail you nor let you down!

 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Do You Have Unanswered Prayers? Here’s Why

The other day was my birthday and usually on my birthday I like to think about all the things that changed, for better or worse, during the past year.

As I pondered some of the hard things that happened I begin to speak to God about them. I thought about the fact that I had many prayers to God that He had not answered. I thought about how many promises that God spoke to my heart that hadn’t come to past and the longer I thought about it the more I told God that I didn’t understand it. I said, “God why are you not answering my prayers? I am serving you, I am trying my best to live for you and yet you have seemed to turn your back on me.”

Maybe you are thinking, “I can’t believe you talked to God like that!” Yes I did but be honest with me, at times you feel the same way. Yet, like me, you are still here and you are still trusting God.

You see Abraham questioned God, so did David and so did Job. That’s called relationship. It happens when we have relationship with God. We don’t just know about Him we know Him because we walk with Him and talk with Him daily.

He wants us to come to Him with our feelings, good and bad, because that shows Him how very much we want to be in a right relationship with Him. If God never answered another one of my prayers I still know how blessed I am!

I will tell you something else. Not for one moment do I think He will NOT answer my prayers. His timing is perfect and I trust Him that there are reasons for delays that I do not know about. I trust His love. As I was crying out to Him I could feel His presence surrounding me, I sensed His hurt that I didn’t understand what is going on.

Beloved, when God is all you’ve got, God is all you’ve got. That alone is enough. We have to trust that our answers are coming and when they do come they will be better then we ever thought they would be!

God has told us that in these last days things will be hard. I know that God has shown me that there is so much interference on a spiritual level that often keeps God’s help from getting to us when we think it should. There is a spiritual battle in the heavens. The goal of Satan is to keep us in so much doubt that we turn our backs on God. We know that God is stronger and that no demon in hell will keep Him from getting our prayer answers to us!

Our answers are coming quickly I sense it in my spirit. Do not give up beloved as I believe we are on the brink of miracles! God will not forsake us. Recognize the satanic interference and pray against it. I often walk around my house and tell Satan to get out, in the name of Jesus Christ. I can literally feel a great sense of peace as I do that! Please do that yourselves. If you need prayer write me. I take every prayer request to the Father!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Signs And Wonders

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So Gideon said to Him, “If now I have found favor in Your sight, then show me a sign that it is You who speak with me.” Judges 6:7

 

A lot of times people tell me that they want to hear from God yet He never speaks to them.

 

The truth is that God speaks to those who are open to God speaking to them. God whispers to us each day. If you are not open to the whispers, the synchronicities, you will miss them.

 

God is very specific when He speaks to you. I find it so fascinating that God knows that I like puzzles. So He gives me pieces of knowledge and lets me put them together to see what he is telling me. That, however, is just one of the ways He speaks with me.

 

Right after you read this; if you are aware, God will give you little signs, little glimpses of His divine providence. You will see things in different ways then you have seen them before, if you are open to see things differently.

 

A dear friend of mine died a few months ago. I was broken-hearted by her unexpected death. She was younger then I am, so I assumed I would die before her. She was too young to die. She had sent me an instant message a week before and she sounded fine. She woke up one morning, said she was having a hard time breathing, and she died instantly. It really hit me. It made me realize that we never know when someone will die and so we have to really live fully each day. I was not able to go to her services. I was upset about it and cried my eyes out the day before. The morning of the day of her service I got out of bed and went into the kitchen to start coffee. I opened my window and in broad open daylight I saw an owl looking at me. The owl just sat on the fence and looked. I felt a peace come over me, I knew that it was a messenger letting me know my friend was okay, with God and would understand my reason for not going to her service. I was able to let go a bit after seeing the owl. Owls symbolize wisdom. Both my friend and I teach wisdom learned in the crucible of fire. The school of hard-knocks was a teacher for her and for me. That’s why we bonded well as friends. I do not believe in coincidences. God spoke to me in a way I was totally open to.

 

God uses birds often to speak to us. We simply need to read the times in the Word birds were used by God to see their significance.

 

One time during a hard time in my life I had to go to the bank to clear up something I was embarrassed by. My soon to be ex-husband, at the time, had taken money out of my account that was not his to take I was in a hard position. I had not idea how I was going to pay my bills. I didn’t know what to say to the woman who I assumed was so classy nothing like that would ever have happened to her. I figured there would be no way she would understand and believe my story. I sat in the lobby of the bank, waiting for her.

They had music playing that was piped through the intercom. I was praying so hard for a miracle with the woman when all of a sudden the song, “Tiny Dancer,” which just happened to be my favorite song for all time, played. I had never heard that kind of music at the bank. I immediately calmed down knowing that God used that to let me know, “I hear you and I am with you.” Sure enough the woman was totally understanding of my situation and was able to get my money back from my ex-husbands account and in to my own.

 

Start watching for signs. When you pray for a sign, God will give you one. God is with us always. We have ministering angels with us always. You do not have to depend on your own ability, just be open to God performing miracles for you. Say, right now, “Thank you God for working my situation out for me. I know you are with me and all will work out fine! Then watch for signs and wonders. God is with you, just be open to hearing from Him.

 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

The Heartbreak Of Family Estrangement

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Some of you will understand this, others will not, but I am going to say it anyway.

I was thinking today about the wonderful, fun get-togethers my family once had. Simple fun, laughter and good food. Then certain people marry into a family and they seem to be jealous of that closeness and they set out to spread lies and tear a family apart.

When we marry into families we need to NOT be jealous of our spouses other family members. It’s ridiculous to act like that. One day you will look back on that and realize how much time you wasted like that. Time you can never get back. 

Jealousy and fighting are straight from the pits of hell. Do not be jealous of the relationship your spouse has with their parents or brothers and sisters. They are not going to leave you because of those relationships. Your spouse will love you much more for loving their family. On the other hand when you divide your spouse from their family they will hold resentment against you. They may not say anything but they will resent you for coming against those they love and expecting them to choose between you or them.

I know sometimes things are said and done by family members that we don’t like. We have to let those things slide off our backs. Surely God has given us enough Grace that we can overlook these things for a few days of a visit once a year. It’s called respect.

Spend time together, forget your grudges! 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Catching Fish/For Fishers Of Men

 

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Ministry is a serious covenant between those of us who serve him and God. We cannot take time off from that covenant to “do our own thing.” People are watching. When we go astray, there needs to be a time of repentance and recommitment. We may think no one see’s our secret sins, but trust me when I say God gives discernment to others. They know. We are in no position to teach others when we ourselves are far from perfect. God will restore us. But we need to be honest about our shortcomings. Too many today are telling others to stay free from sin when they are doing it themselves.

Therefore thus says the LORD God of Israel concerning the shepherds who are tending My people: “You have scattered My flock and driven them away, and have not attended to them; behold, I am about to attend to you for the evil of your deeds,” declares the LORD.…

New Living Translation
“Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds, the leaders of Israel. Give them this message from the Sovereign LORD: What sorrow awaits you shepherds who feed yourselves instead of your flocks. Shouldn’t shepherds feed their sheep? Ezekiel 34:2

in His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Free Book Offer Love Addiction Help For Christians

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I give thanks and glory to God for selling my books this past month in the USA, Japan and the UK! Truly a miracle as I have no agent other then God. If you know how many books are for sale on Kindle you would understand why it’s a miracle to sell any at all. 

I sell my books for $2.99 a piece as I want those that need the knowledge God gave me to be able to get it. It does take time to write them, put them in the right format, etc. I praise God for the ability to do it. Right now the extra income is a huge blessing to us during some difficult times. 

In celebration of God blessing me I would like to bless others. For those of you who are interested I am offering my most popular book; Love Addiction Help For Christians for FREE. Starting at midnight tonight the 21st(Monday) and lasting until Midnight the 23rd, Wednesday.

If you know someone who would enjoy the book please let them know too.

Go to Amazon. In the search line put Love Addiction Help For Christians and my name. Not until midnight tonight for those of you in the US!

It Hurts But I Am Closer To Acceptance

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Can we talk? At first I wasn’t going to publish this. It shows my feelings are raw. I am usually the encouragement person. But then I prayed and felt led to share it anyway. We all are trying to be perfect. We know we don’t have to be, but we try. But the truth is we are human, in suits of flesh. We need each other. So I am publishing this. We are all pilgrims in this place longing for our home in heaven where God will wipe away each tear. So I am sharing this as I feel impressed by God that many can relate!

 

It hurts But I Am Closer To Acceptance

We are too hard on ourselves. When we have bad relationships with people we should either ignore it or change it. If it’s someone that is constantly uncaring, hurtful and rude it might be best to leave those people alone as much as possible. But what if it’s family? Someone you have to spend certain times with because of your spouse? It’s best to get along, in those situations, because of keeping family peace.

I have always been a “why” person. It’s who I am. I like a challenge. Because of that I will analyze a situation and make it better if I see area’s in which I might need to change.

So I looked at a certain situation and recognized area’s I needed to grow and change in. I prayed about it and I changed. I was sick of being a couple of folks emotional scapegoat. Everything I did was wrong, I was conspiring constantly to make their life miserable, according to them. I could say so much more but some of you will understand. 

I changed, I quit getting involved with anything that was none of my business. I was kind and I was understanding and went out of my way to please them.

And you know what? Nothing changed. Nothing changed because these people had made me the wicked witch of the Southwest and they were used to me being the excuse for a bad relationship with another family member. They thought “we win,” and we aren’t going to change.”

Lesson learned. Sometimes we need to change our behavior around certain people. When, with the help of God, we do change and we are still ignored, used and emotionally abused it’s time to realize it is what it is and again set boundaries.

I am thankful for God’s Unconditional Love that continues to remind me that I too am loved.

 My life is pretty hard. Because of my husband’s physical condition I have to take care of him and everything else by myself. He was in the hospital for 3 months and had seven operations. We lost everything we had because of our medical bills, even with insurance. It’s a challenge to put food on the table and vacations, buying gifts, well we just don’t have the money. We drive a sixteen year old car. We moved from our first rental here into a lease-to-own. We were thrilled thinking we would never have to move again. Then, the landlord decided he didn’t want to do a  lease to own, he wanted the money immediately and we didn’t have it. So we had to move and we had to borrow money from two different loan companies, my daughter and two sweet friends to do it. I pray daily for a way to buy a home. I am working hard to repair our credit scores to do so. In the meantime I thank God to just have a roof over my head. I want to move closer to friends and  some family in the Rio Rancho NM area, but I am stuck. These are folks who would be there the minute I called. So I trust God. When the time comes He will open doors for us.

Looking at a picture recently, of me at 20, I would never have imagined this would be my life in old age. It is what it is.

God gets us through each day with miracles only Chuck and I are aware of them. I build others up in faith because it also builds me up. I love Daddy God because he has said “I am with you always, never will I leave you or forsake you.”

If you think that any of us could get through our problems alone, without the faithfulness of God you are wrong. I am so blessed to be his daughter. But I have been too hard on myself at times. I don’t always need to repair all the cracks in my pot, so that those in my family might treat me better, those cracks are where HIS light shines through. Amen? I know so many of my readers can relate. Satan and those he uses tried to break us…

It didn’t work! Ha ha devil!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

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Coffee With Cathie 05/12/2018

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You can not turn an apple into a peach and you wouldn’t want to. An apple appeals more to some and visa versa. Each one of us was chosen, by God, to reach certain people. The apostles ,and known followers of Jesus,had diverse backgrounds. I think Paul’s background, as a dreaded tax collector, prepared him for working with hostile people. 

This past week with the Lord, for me, has been both mystical and educational.

More and more the gifts he gave us are coming to the forefront and accelerating. 

It’s important to remember that we all have our place in the body. If we try to operate in someone else’s anointing, that we admire, it won’t work. As an example I might want to preach, but unfortunately that’s not my anointing. God has anointed me for working with people one on one. If I decided to preach it wouldn’t succeed. I would be out of my anointing and it would show!

Sometimes, God shows me clearly what it going on with someone and the outcome of it. I then have to use extra discernment because some people can handle the truth and others cannot. Usually I file it in my mind unless they ASK for advice.

Whatever your anointing is God is going to start using you in ever greater ways. Quickly and to the point. Time is short. There is no time to beat around the bush. 

You will not resonate with everyone but God knows who you will resonate with and puts them in your path. Sometimes I will write something and only one person will comment on it, especially on my blog where I have a larger audience. God tells me that it’s okay. It may have been that one person needed that word. 

“1 Corinthians 12:12-27 New International Reader’s Version (NIRV)

One Body but Many Parts

12 There is one body, but it has many parts. But all its many parts make up one body. It is the same with Christ. 13 We were all baptized by one Holy Spirit. And so we are formed into one body. It didn’t matter whether we were Jews or Gentiles, slaves or free people. We were all given the same Spirit to drink. 14 So the body is not made up of just one part. It has many parts.

15 Suppose the foot says, “I am not a hand. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. 16 And suppose the ear says, “I am not an eye. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, how could it hear? If the whole body were an ear, how could it smell? 18 God has placed each part in the body just as he wanted it to be. 19 If all the parts were the same, how could there be a body? 20 As it is, there are many parts. But there is only one body.

21 The eye can’t say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 In fact, it is just the opposite. The parts of the body that seem to be weaker are the ones we can’t do without. 23 The parts that we think are less important we treat with special honor. The private parts aren’t shown. But they are treated with special care. 24 The parts that can be shown don’t need special care. But God has put together all the parts of the body. And he has given more honor to the parts that didn’t have any. 25 In that way, the parts of the body will not take sides. All of them will take care of one another. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it. If one part is honored, every part shares in its joy.

27 You are the body of Christ. Each one of you is a part of it.”

Have a blessed day in the Lord beloved!

Cathie 

Coffee With Cathie 05/11/2018

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This morning this scripture came to my mind

“My sheep know my voice and I know them” John 10:27

As I meditated on that a picture came to my mind of one of my children, when they were young and got hurt outside playing, calling my name.

Like any other parent I knew which one of my children that was. I never hesitated, I went running to help.

God knows my voice and he knows your voice and all we have to do is call his name and He stops everything and he comes running.

He knows his kids voices and we know His. Whether you are far away or near to Him, He’s standing and he’s calling to you, individually, he is wanting you, specifically to hear his voice and come running!