What God Told Me About Suffering

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I have learned something in the past few years. What I have learned is that sometimes people expect you to be strong when the truth is that if some of the things that have happened to you happened to them, they would fall apart and curse God.

 

I know that’s true. In the past few years I have had to be the strong one when I should not have had to be the strong one.

 

Some of you are there; you are losing your job, for the third time. Your cancer is back and you are still weak from fighting it the last time. You are getting evicted and don’t have a clue as to where you will go. You child is ill or dying and yet everyone expects you to go on like nothing is wrong.

 

I have thought a lot about that lately and I feel impressed to tell you that you cannot depend on people to hold you up. You can, depend on God. We may not feel His presence but He is with us. He loves us and He is watching us and when the time is right our breakthrough will come and those who have given up on us will be SHOCKED.

 

I have been a caretaker when, if truth was known, I should have a caretaker. I have Lupus, a Spinal Cord injury, and I take care of my husband everyday who can do very little for himself.

 

Recently, I asked for help and with the exception of a couple of friends no one has helped. That’s fine because through this God is teaching me to be stronger then I ever have been.

 

I want YOU to know, in the midst of your troubles, pay no attention to those who cockily say to you, “You tell others to believe in God, how come you can’t to that yourself.”

 

Because for some of us it seems like it’s not one thing to be discouraged about, but it’s a lot of things. Even Job, was shaken when one thing after the other came against his life. Even a man with the faith of Job, questioned God and went to his friends for help. You find out who is your friend at these times too. Most people are takers. Then need YOU to do something for them. They need you to pray for them, but when it’s you with the problem, they find a way to shut you down.

 

I have been seeking God about these things. Like Job, I will never stop loving and worshipping God.

 

Yesterday God told me to start getting real with these blogs. He said, “There are millions out there like you, Cathie. Millions who think they cannot go on another day. He said, “I told you the last days would be like this. I told you that in the last days it would be hard to stand, but those who do will be with me in eternity.”

 

God said the following, “There are those of my children who are desperate for hope. They cannot get it from other Christians because a lot of my children believe that those who have troubles MUST HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG. Therefore so many end up committing suicide from a lack of help. I have put you in these dire situations so that you will understand exactly how they feel.”

 

God told me “Continue your blog and get real with people. I am angry with my children who live in comfort and luxury and yet refuse to help others. I am sick of them and I am going to turn these things around. I want you to let these hurting ones know, I am here for everyone, but the hurting are especially close to my heart. I was spit on, I was scourged, and I was called a liar. You think I don’t understand your pain?”

 

He continued, “I had a mission to do, I did it out of love. Yet the first time something happens to some of my children they blame me, or they say, “There is no God.” I told you that Satan is your enemy. Instead of thinking that those hurting one have sinned you should understand that so many of them are PERFECT in my eyes. Satan knows that and he is hell bent on discouraging them. ENDURE TO THE END! ENDURE TO THE END!”

 

Matthew 24:12-14Because of the multiplication of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold. 13But the one who perseveres to the end will be saved. 14And this gospel of the kingdom will be preached in the entire world as a testimony to all nations, and then the end will come.

 

1 Corinthians 1: 8-9He will sustain you to the end, so that you will be blameless on the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9God, who has called you into fellowship with His Son Jesus Christ our Lord, is faithful.

 

1 Peter 12 4:12-13 Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed. If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you. But let none of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a meddler. Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name. …

Beloved, we are never as close to God as when we suffer without just cause.

 

The night before last Jesus spoke to me, “These horrible tests are going to be the hardest. But when you share the dinner with the Bridegroom, it will all have been worth it. They did horrible things to me, so why do you find it so strange when the shoe is on your foot?”

 

The best thing we can do with these hardships is simply surrender to them, and let God be God. He has a plan, whatever it is we must accept it. We must tell Him the desires of our hearts and then leave those desires with Him.

 

He is getting ready to turn these things around. We have been severely tested in order to understand the hard testing’s of our brothers and sisters and help them through them. Please quit sitting in judgment of others! We have no idea what their lives have been like. We must pray for mercy for those who are devastated by the trials of life, and especially for those who find delight in their suffering.

 

In His UNCONDITIONAL love,

Cathie

www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com

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The Promised Land And You

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I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live I live by believing in God’s Son, who loved me and took the punishment for my sins. Galatians 2:20

Don’t sit around feeling sorry for yourself and wondering why your old friends, and sadly, some of your own family don’t spend time with you anymore.

The truth is that when you got to know Jesus personally He sent people and put opportunities in front of you and taught you about miracle living and your whole life changed for the better.

You stopped drinking and doing drugs. Your whole life changed. You started to believe in YOU and that you could do all things with the help of God..

Now you are moving on up! God has promoted you! You have a great job, an education and a decent place to live now! They look at you and it makes them uncomfortable. They no longer have an excuse because every time they see you going from miracle to miracle they know that there is no reason they cannot be a super-achiever too!

It’s easier for them to ignore you then to admit they have no one to blame for their lives being the way that they are but themselves!

So now you know. You haven’t done anything to them. You haven’t offended them. They liked you in that gutter with them.

Praise God that you were lifted out of the mire and your feet were set on solid ground. Pray for them but you can’t go back there, God knows you can never go back there because you are on your way to the promised land. You no longer belong in Egypt!

In Him,

Cathie Miller

http://www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com

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Quit Comparing Yourself To Others

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” Charm is deceitful and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the LORD will be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

 
I used to constantly make myself miserable by comparing myself to others. We have to learn to celebrate who we are because we each have something wonderful about our unique being.

When I was young and living in California there was a woman named Marion, in our apartments, who every man drooled over and every woman hated. She had a perfect body, a gorgeous face and long, thick flowing hair.

I would compare myself to her and I always came up short. My body was far from perfect, my face was average and my hair was fine and thin.

But over the time we lived there God began to speak to me that instead of fretting over what I wasn’t I needed to concentrate on what I was. I have always had an outgoing, fun personality and people enjoy being around me. So I made myself the best “me” I could be and counted on my people skills to make sure I had plenty of friends.

Over the many, many, years now I have learned that a partner who frets more over your looks then theirs and constantly reminds you of your beauty faults is actually a very insecure person. They are the kind of person who needs their ego constantly stroked and having that perfect person by their side constantly gives their ego a boost. They want everyone in the room, when they walk in with you, to be jealous. It isn’t about you, it’s about them. That’s not love, that’s insecurity.

I am not telling you to let yourself go. I am telling you that true love accepts you as you are.

You are a one of a kind. God doesn’t make junk. He made you for a reason. Quit comparing yourself to others. Have you ever noticed that, nine times out of ten, truly beautiful people are not nice people?

Find what the one thing is that makes you special and work on perfecting it. That’s God’s gift to the world operating through you.

In God’s Unconditional Love,
Cathie

The Real Meaning of Unconditional Love

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“And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

Ephesians 3-17-19

How many times do we do something that we know we should not do, or how many times do we remember things we did in that past, and wonder if God really loves us and how many times to we truly believe, in our heart of hearts that God has forgiven us completely?

This morning my husband and I were discussing God’s unconditional love. We often hear of people doing things or see them doing things and we think, “God, that person is a demon right from hell, why do you put up with it? Why don’t you strike them down?”

In the Old Testament my favorite example of someone feeling that way was the story of Jonah. He looked at the things the people in Nineveh were doing and to him these folks seemed beyond hope.

God spoke to Jonah to go and tell these people of God’s love and salvation and Jonah actually ran from God and, at first, refused to do so. God had other ways of getting Jonah back in line, and we all remember that story of Jonah being inside the belly of the whale after he was thrown off the ship he had used to escape from God’s voice.

Finally, Jonah, through hard circumstances, saw the light and returned back to Nineveh and through his preaching many were saved and turned away from the things they were doing to displease God. (Book of Jonah Chapter 4)

In order to understand God’s deep love for us we must first understand that we are His children.

My husband and I were talking about some of our children that have grieved our hearts and disappointed us with their hurtful actions. We had to admit that even though they hurt and disappoint us we never get over that love, deep inside us, for our children and we always pray for miracles and that they will come to know God personally. Not just know of Him, but know HIM PERSONALLY!

If you want to understand God’s unconditional love then please think about someone whom you love more then life itself. A family member, a friend or whomever it may be.

Deep in your heart you dream of the time you can be reconciled with that person and pray to God to save them. I know you do that because it’s human nature.

Other people may have given up on you, or one of their loved ones, but God never will. That is unconditional love and it transcends all situations and anything we could ever do!

God has not turned His back on us. We may feel distant from Him but that’s our problem. Not His problem.

Know that you and I are never so far away from Christ that we cannot be brought back into His presence.

He loves us unconditionally. He stands at the door of our hearts today and knocks loudly. Isn’t it time we let Him back in!

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Learning To Lean On God Alone

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Learning To Depend On God Alone
Matthew 4:21-22

Going on from there, He saw two other brothers, James son of Zebedee and his brother John. They were in a boat with their father Zebedee, mending their nets. Jesus called them, and immediately they left the boat and their father and followed Him.…

Notice how in the above scripture, James and John never gave their father another thought. That’s how convinced they were that God had another plan for their lives.

Today after praying I begin to think about people who feel they must manipulate others for their own benefit.

This can be a parent of grown children, a wife or a husband, a good friend or even a child. It’s really a selfish spirit that seeks to have their own will and will do everything and anything to get things exactly how they want it.

One of the most common things manipulative people do is use guilt towards other people. Things are said like, “How can you do that if you love me,” or they will transfer their true feeling onto you by saying, “ You will never make it without me!”

It’s so hard to sometimes let our adult children go. I faced a similar situation with my only daughter. She lived with me for several years and I got so used to her being there that truthfully I believe I depended upon her too much. I depended upon her to do things I could do for myself and was really just too lazy to do. So when she fell in love and wanted to move away, I was heart broken, and begin to worry, “What am I going to do?” Even though I am a Christian, a counselor and really do know better, I found myself doing and saying things that I knew were not of God in an effort to keep her close by.

One day, during my time with the Lord, I was led to pick up a little book of daily words of messages from God. I opened it to the following words, “Trustingly place your child in God’s loving hands. Your heart is bound to the heart of the child. Loose the cord of affection lest it break.” That hit home, and from that point on I apologized to my daughter and supported the desire of her heart to go on and live her life.

God spoke to my heart with a bird analogy. What if a mother bird never kicked the baby bird out of the nest, would it ever learn to fly? Birds are meant to fly, and our children are not meant to live with us forever. It is only selfishness that wants to keep them with us forever.

Often times God has things for our grown child to accomplish and their place is where God has called them to be, not with us all their lives.

Watch closely in your life for a spirit of manipulation. It destroys relationships, will mess up plans and will rob you of your peace. Rebuke trying to manipulate and control other’s lives and apply wisdom and understanding.

God is who we should depend on. Not other people. When we trust in Him, He will see that we are provided with all we need. Sometimes we get so bogged down in human emotions we take our eyes off of Him and place them on other people. By doing so we make that person an idol. We place them above God, thinking without them we will not survive. God is all we need and we can do all things through Him, as He gives us strength. For those things we cannot do physically, God will provide someone to help us!

Let Go and Let God!

In His Unconditional Love,
Cathie Miller

http://www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com

Double Mindedness Blocks Blessings

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Double mindedness will block blessings all the time. If we are in prayer one minute and indulging in things that God doesn’t like another we are blocking blessings.

Another thing that will block blessings is not being sure of what we really want. One week we want one thing, and the next week we want something else. In prayer this morning I was reminded to be sure of what I want and then believe in faith that I have it. Be specific with God and don’t give up the vision of your desired answer to prayer.

Father help us to stay true to you and avoid temptations to go into the same sins that brought us down the first time. As we are faithful to you, help us to remember to make our prayer requests specific and to believe that what we ask for, we receive. Thank you Father, we ask these things in Your Precious Name! Amen

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com

Satan Preys Without Ceasing

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1 John 4:4 You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.

Luke 10:19 I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you.

Recently I have had occasion to interact with two demon possessed people. Not in the same place, but it was obvious that they had demons inside of them. These people do not realize it and I think that they are completely unaware that they have opened a door to the dark side.

The important thing to remember, before I continue, is that these demons never can be successful in their attacks against Christians. According to the Word of God we have the power of God inside of us, as blood bought Christians, and the powers of darkness are subject to US as children of God.

When God is trying to show me something He often leads me into study, out of the blue, and at the same time I begin to notice other Christians are being led to study the same thing.

First, I had interaction with a demon possessed woman working at a store. She studied me waiting in line, once I got in front of her to do my business it was obvious to me that she had a demon working in her. Therefore when she “went off” on me and my husband I had seen it coming. At one time the demon inside of her started laughing at us. Watch people who laugh at inappropriate times, often that is a strong sign of demon possession.

I came home and started praying about that interaction. I had noticed a lot of other demonic demonstrations in the last year, and so have you beloved of the Lord. If you have seen people killing masses of people who do you think empowers a person to murder? You can call it radical religion, or mental illness, but the truth that Christians know is that it is the work of a demon working through a person who has given themselves over to beliefs that oppose God.

God began to teach me a couple of important things. First, He took me on a study of the blood of Jesus. The blood shed by Jesus is extremely Holy. Claiming that blood that He shed to die for our sins, is no different then the Israelites putting the blood of a lamb on their doorposts so that their children would not be killed.

“For the LORD will pass through to smite the Egyptians; and when He sees the blood on the lintel and on the two doorposts, the LORD will pass over the door and will not allow the destroyer to come in to your houses to smite you.” Exodus 12:23

Jesus is the Lamb of God. We understand that symbolism and so we can now claim the power of that blood for us and our children.

Secondly, we are in the time spoken of in Revelation. We are in the time of the “end time” demons. These demons are stronger because Satan is well aware that his time is coming to a end.

The bible speaks of the time of the end as being a seven year period of time. I believe we may have already been through the first part of that seven year period.

In an article from Revelation Logic, an unknown author says the following;

“The final seven-year end times period corresponds with the 70th week of Daniel (Dan 9:24-27). The first 3 1/2 years of this period may actually seem like “business as usual” for the earth. The first four seal events will be fulfilled during this time, but those events are not that exceptional. People have risen to great political prominence (as in the first seal) many times in the past, there have been many wars and famines (as in the second and third seals), and many people have died of such things (as in the fourth seal). There have even been multiple peace treaties involving Israel (like the “covenant” mentioned in Dan 9:27).”

I believe it is very possible we have passed from that period of time to the “mid-time” of tribulation. During that period the author says the following;

“However, when the first 3 1/2 years are finished, we will have reached the midpoint of the end times period, and things start happening in the angelic realm that will strongly shape the course of events on earth for the second 3 1/2 years. This is the period called the time, times, and half a time (Dan 7:25, Dan 12:7), and it begins with the 42 months of the great tribulation, as discussed below:

The Midpoint

Rev 12:7-12 – 7And there was war in heaven, Michael and his angels waging war with the dragon. The dragon and his angels waged war, 8and they were not strong enough, and there was no longer a place found for them in heaven. 9And the great dragon was thrown down, the serpent of old who is called the devil and Satan, who deceives the whole world; he was thrown down to the earth, and his angels were thrown down with him. The Kingdom of our God and the authority of His Christ have come, for the accuser of our brethren has been thrown down, he who accuses them before our God day and night. 11“And they overcame him because of the blood of the Lamb and because of the word of their testimony, and they did not love their life even when faced with death. 12“For this reason, rejoice, O heavens and you who dwell in them. Woe to the earth and the sea, because the devil has come down to you, having great wrath, knowing that he has only a short time.”

At the midpoint of the seven-year end times period, God gives the command to expel Satan from His presence in heaven, and Satan is thus cast down to the earth. I believe Satan knows that this time is coming, but he doesn’t know when it will happen. When that time arrives, Satan will be enraged because he will then know that his time is short, specifically, the time, times, and half a time period (Rev 12:14).”

So these end time demons are strong and able to work against Christians with a stronger presence then we have seen in the past.

When people say, “This world seems to be going to hell” they are correct, and yet they see it through secular eyes. We, as Christian, have read the end of the book and we know that we win in the end.

In the meantime, the only way to fight these demons is by pleading the blood over yourself, and your family on a daily basis. Once we realize what is going on we are able to fight these situations being prepared, prayed up and covered with the blood.
When we come across a demon possessed person it is best to simply walk away, if possible. If not then what I have learned to do is start praying, in my head, for the person in front of me, pleading the blood of Jesus over the tongue in their mouth, and praying a hedge of safety around me.

In order to fight these demons we have to be living in God’s will on a daily basis. Like the little saying I saw recently says, “Part-time Christians Cannot Defeat Full-Time Devils.”

We cannot be living an “almost” Christian life,” because it would be a real heartache to “almost” get into heaven, as Greg Laurie teaches.

Today, if there is anything holding you back get rid of it. Give it to Jesus and give any weak area’s of your life to Him. You may feel weak, but Jesus living inside of you is strong.

Some of you, unfortunately, have some part-time Christians living in your home. Pray for them, without ceasing. Pray that God will do what He needs to do to bring them to surrender. Sadly, these family members can try to manipulate Christians with their drama and they often cause a spirit of division in families. Remember, no matter what your relation to these folks is,  JESUS IS LORD. Do not give in to their manipulations. We need to please God, not people. Follow the same thing when dealing with family members that are not living completely for God. Plead the blood of Jesus over yourself when dealing with them, and do not let Satan get you on their “drama” level. Sometimes, it’s best to turn and walk away from them. Let them know, “I love you but I cannot deal with you at the moment.” Then pray over them in your head. Anoint their car, their toothbrush, ECT. with healing oil. You can use Crisco oil if that’s all you have. Do not let them know you are doing it. I have seen people change in radical ways by using that method.

The purpose of this is to let you know what you are experiencing is real, and to give you practical methods of dealing with it. It will not get better. It is only going to get worse. Stay prayed up and close to God. Have faith that He is with you and protects you and your loved ones.

I am not a biblical scholar and I do not want to argue with anyone concerning the Tribulation period. Many believe we will be raptured before the Tribulation, and that’s fine. I personally believe we are in it now, and that’s what I am convinced of. Either way, pre-tribulation or going through the Tribulation I know that God is with me, and I am going to live with Him.

In His All-Forgiving Love,
Cathie Miller

www.helpforGodshurtingpeople.com

Plow Up The Hard Ground Of Your Hearts

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“Plow up the hard ground of your hearts,
for now is the time to seek the Lord,
that he may come
and shower righteousness upon you.” Hosea 10:12

“Fallow ground is ground which has once been tilled, but which now lies in waste, and needs to be broken up and mellowed, before it is it is ready to receive grain.” Charles Finney

Today was a strange day in that, looking back on it, the Lord was trying to get my attention. First of all I had trouble with my computer. It was very slow and it took me awhile to figure out what was going on. Now, if my spirit had been where it should have been, I would have taken that set back as a sign that God was trying to get my attention. But it took more then that to get me where God could speak to me. We had a snow storm today and the satellite for my television wasn’t able to get a signal. Even after the sky cleared I still didn’t have a signal. On top of all of that our heater quit working and so finally, I retreated to bed and my electric blanket for warmth. It was then when I finally got still and began, in the peace and quiet forced upon me, to listen to the voice of the Lord.

I have studied the bible for thirty-seven years and yet, for some reason I never paid any attention to the scripture at the beginning of the blog. Maybe I read it sometime, but if I did I don’t remember it.

God began to speak to me about breaking up fallow ground. I have thought for sometime that God was getting ready to do something BIG. My spirit senses that He is going to move in a way that people will know, that they know, God is with them in a mightier way then they have ever experience before.

I talk to so many people who are good Christians. People who love the Lord and live for Him daily and yet their lives seem to be in shambles. Finances are not good, family members are ill, jobs are not out there and many Christians are standing on a thin line between holding on and giving up. Yet we get up each day and continue to believe that somehow, someway God is going to move in our situations.

But why isn’t He moving yet? God spoke to my heart this evening that many of us have had to have the fallow grounds of our lives tilled. We have had to have things broken up and mellowed. We have had situations that have been like nothing before. These situations have broken up the hard area’s of our hearts and humbled us and made us more ready then ever before to receive the new grain, the seed of our futures, that God is ready to plant inside of us!

There are hard situations and then there are hard situations. I recently heard a testimony of a young man who had the fallow ground of his life broken up in a way I don’t think many could comprehend. He was in Afghanistan when he stepped on an explosive device that ripped off both of his legs and part of one of his arms. Think of it. No matter what I have faced in the past two years and as awful as some of those things have seemed, nothing compares to the price that man paid for our freedom. Yet, he has said that He believes that God had used that experience to break him. He said there were area’s of his life that were not surrendered to God and has hard as it seemed to imagine, He believes he is a better person and more useful to God because of what He has been through. Now he is giving his testimony in churches nationwide and it moves so many people that they surrender their lives to Christ on the spot!

These things, Beloved of the Lord, that we are going through are getting ready to end. God is going to use each circumstance to give us a testimony that we never would have had without going through what we have been through. The peace we have learned to rely on, in the midst of our own personal battles, is the peace of God that passes all human understanding. Yet these hard times have matured us, given us more compassion and readied us for the times ahead.

Soil must be right before a seed will grow. We cannot grab seed in our hands and throw it willy-nilly on the ground and hope for the best. If we want a good crop we have to make sure that the land, that seemed no good to grow anything, is broken up and worked until it reaps wonderful crops.

Get ready to see a move of God in your life that you have never experienced before. Get ready to see miracles to your right and to your left. God is getting ready to put some people in front of you that need to know Him. Because of what you have experienced you will reach a greater number of people then you ever could imagine.

Broken fallow ground gives forth wonderful different crops on the same land ,that prior to that breaking, had seemed wasted and useless.

In His Unconditional Love,
Cathie

www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com

In The Trenches With The Lord

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Now it came about when Pharaoh had let the people go, that God did not lead them by the way of the land of the Philistines, even though it was near; for God said, “Lest the people change their minds when they see war, and they return to Egypt” (Ex. 13:17).

If you are like me you are probably confronted with choices, of one type or another, each and every day.

This morning I had a choice of what coffee I wanted to drink. That was a simple one that really didn’t affect my life or that of those around me. But, some choices that we make change our lives in profound ways.

Sometimes we look back on life and realize that we made a bad choice. That choice may have affected not only our lives but also the lives of those around us for years and years.

Some of you know that my favorite secular quote is that of the poet Maya Angelo. I keep it on a “post it” note in my bible. It reads, “You did what you knew how to do, when you knew better you did better.” The Word says in Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

On Memorial Day one year there was a real tragedy in the little town we were living in, in Colorado, at the time. A life long resident, a known alcoholic in his middle fifties, shot and killed his wife and then did an overdose of prescription medications and killed himself. This couple had known each other since they went to school together and they had five children and several grandchildren.

A week or so later there was a letter to the editor of the newspaper. I am often shocked at life in a small town. The kinds of letters they printed there would not ever be printed in the newspaper of a large town, for fear of lawsuits. But a small town is another world, and I came to expect to see anything in print there and often did

The person writing the letter was one of the young sons of this couple. He was telling people to quit gossiping about his family. He was telling them his mom and dad were good people who had helped many other people in need. He was telling them that alcohol was not a good thing, and that it is what actually killed his mother and father. He then mentioned he was, himself, in jail and when he got out he didn’t want to hear anyone talking about his family.

I cried when I read that letter. My first instinct was to go down to the jail and ask to see that young man. I wanted to throw my arms around him and let him know that I knew how he felt. I wanted to tell him about Jesus and how Jesus was a man himself that was acquainted with unfair sorrow.

I know what’s its like to live in a small town and have a parent who is the town drunk. I grew up, in my grade school years, in a small town in Texas. My mother was the town drunk. I remember that, at that time, it snowed so much in that town we could have three and four-foot snow drifts. I distinctly remember the time my mother was drunk early in the morning and didn’t dress me properly to walk to school. I had no socks on with my little Mary Jane flat shoes, and was sent out the door to walk to school in those deep snowdrifts. My feet were red, swollen and numb by the time I got to school. Upon seeing that my teacher went to get another teacher and I can still see them in my mind as they stood there and whispered and pointed at me. Never once did they come and offer to help, never once did they get a towel and dry my feet. I remember that I felt shame. I felt as if it were somehow my fault. That shame led to years of low self-esteem and it also led me to rebel against authority figures, which I saw as those two gossipy teachers in my mind.

Now, you would have thought that seeing my mother drunk for years, until she found AA and remained sober for the next 25 years of her life, would have been enough for me to say to myself, “I will never take a drink, ever.” But like the young man above I too found myself in trouble with alcohol at one point in my life.

Satan meant my early life to destroy me. It didn’t because God had his hands on me. Sometimes we look back at our bad choices and say, “God why did you let me go through all of that?”

On the day I read that letter to the editor it became crystal clear to me “why.” Someone could go up to that young man and say, “I am so sorry for what you have been through!” and he might think, “That’s, nice but you don’t have a clue.”

On the other hand, all the hurt and all the shame I had gone through had prepared me for this one thing, this one time that I could go up to this young man, throw my arms around him and say, “I know what you are going through, brother. I have been there.”

All our hurts in life, all our wrong choices, can be used by God to help other people. I have noticed that when you minister to someone it is often useless if you cannot get past your pride and be “real” with him or her.

I hear people tell me, “I was raised in a Christian home, where the bible was preached on a daily basis, I have been saved my whole life.” Well, isn’t that wonderful. I am happy for you, but you don’t have a heart for hurting people. Unless you can drop the pride and admit that you aren’t perfect, no one is going to listen to you. Those types of people often make better teachers then counselors.

It’s only in the hard trenches experiences that we learn compassion for those who go though the same things.

So today, we know better. We make better choices. But we don’t hide the bad choices under a bush and hope the other “perfect” Christians don’t discover our pasts. Instead we use those things to rescue another person that God has sent us to, to tell our story. To let them see how God turned our lives around, and give them hope that He is able to do the same thing for them!
In His Never-Ending Love,

Cathie Miller

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Overcoming Trials Successfully

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The problem is that somewhere along the way we got the idea that because we are saved, Christian and/or good people nothing should ever happen to us that is bad. Our lives should be perfect, we falsely believe, and if something goes wrong we are tempted to start grumbling to God. In fact, even the most mature Christian will grumble in the midst of what we perceive to be bad or unfair situations.

It was during one of those hard times in my life that I began to grumble to God about a situation I was experiencing. I said to God,during my prayer time one morning, “Why are you allowing this to happen to me God? I help your people, I often counsel for free! Blah, blah, blah. What am I doing wrong?” I continued on like this for a bit and then I stopped and started crying and feeling sorry for myself. In the midst of this God spoke to my heart, “You haven’t done anything wrong, as a matter of fact I am well pleased with you. It’s for this reason that Satan is attacking you.” I said, ” What about ******* Lord, she is a demon from hell and NOTHING bad ever happens to her, as a matter of fact you just blessed her with a new car and I am driving a twelve year old clunker” Immediately God’s thoughts came into my head, He said,”That’s exactly the truth. Satan already has her, and he doesn’t waste his time bothering someone who is already living for him whether consciously or subconsciously.”

Through that experience,and many, many more like it, I have come to realize that the devil is the ever-constant enemy of a bible believing, on fire for Jesus, Christian. We never get to the point where he will leave us alone. Discouragement is his favorite tool and he uses it to make the Christian shake her fist at God and sometimes walk away in unbelief.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

The above scripture is absolute truth. We cannot escape the fiery darts of the devil but we can live peacefully in the midst of them. One day we will live eternally with Jesus and all tears will be wiped away. In the meantime we have to find the strength within us to stay calm and peaceful, no matter what happens. God doesn’t cause bad things to happen but He knows that every now and then they will happen and when they do He will come to us and walk us through anything that happens victoriously.

By refusing to give in to fear and sorrow we can walk daily ,content with our situations, knowing that God is in our midst and will walk with us and walk us out of each situation victoriously.

If you notice you can tell the extent of a person’s relationship with God by how they handle problems. When a person puts their eyes on God and not on the problem they are growing with Christ. A Christian who is mostly a pew sitter without strong relationship with God will fall apart.

Even the strongest Christian may initially fall apart in the midst of severe situations. The difference is that sooner or later they take their eyes off the situation and put them on Jesus. They find a scripture and no matter how bad things may look they quote it back to the devil. They say,”Yes, I know this looks bad God, but I walk by faith not by sight. You have said you work all things out for GOOD for those who love you and are called according to your purposes. So I am resting and accepting this situation. I know that you love me and only want the best for my life so I am content in you, no matter what happens in this situation!”

When stuff happens, and it will, refuse to entertain the what ifs. “But God, what if this happens or that happens?”

I once had someone that became very mad at me. Her brother was very ill and he was the only family she had left. I prayed and counseled with her and reminded her to keep her eyes on Jesus and her brother still died.

She called me angry and said, “You said Jesus was with me! Why did He not answer my prayer and let my brother live?” I then explained to her that her brother had the ultimate healing. He went to live with Jesus in heaven. Heaven is a beautifully calm place where peace abounds and all there are healed. To us, with our human reasoning, death is the worse thing that can happen to a person. We see this world and we want to remain. If we understood how wonderful it is to be in the presence of God in heaven we would all want to go there as soon as possible.

Death of our loved ones is hard on us because we want them to be with us. We have to know though that death takes away THEIR pain and sorrow and gives them life eternally in a much, much better place then this physical world.

Whatever you are currently experiencing will not last forever. Turn it over to God, release it and let Him know that you are okay with His will being done, no matter what happens.

God is with you. Take a deep breath, then release it. Take several, if need be and repeat the following, “I am at peace with my situation today God, knowing that your perfect will WILL be done in it!” Then release it and every time you start to stress over it, STOP. Then repeat the breathing, releasing and affirming God’s best for you life, again. The choice to stress or not stress is ours and ours alone. We cannot control bad situations but we can learn to live in perfect peace in the midst of them!

In His Unconditional Love,
Cathie

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