The Truth About Counseling

This may offend some so I apologize in advance. If your therapy is working for you by all means continue.

Ten years ago I began to question the Lord about why so many people would tell me they wanted Christian counseling who were already seeking counsel with a secular counselor and we’re not getting better.

God used the woman at the well to show me the counseling method he wanted me to use. He spoke to me about the woman at the well. He said, “In secular counsel you delve in a person’s childhood. Bringing up all the hurt does more harm then good. When I saw the woman at the well I didn’t do an intake. I didn’t tell her she was a relationship addict due to her childhood. Even if true it didn’t matter because she was in desperate need of something to satisfy the hole in her soul that was being filled with anything to make the loneliness go away for a time. No. I told her exactly what I discerned. I told her she had been with 5 men and wasn’t married to the man she was currently living with. I told her what was wrong and then I told her what she really needed was to drink from everlasting water.” Jesus continued, “I cut to the chase, told her what she needed and she got it. She then went and told people, “Come and meet a man who told me everything I ever did!” I want you to discern the problem through prayer, tell the person what the problem is and then what to do about it.”

So that’s what I do. Granted I could make more money by dragging things out and making clients dependent upon me. As a matter of fact very few people pay me at all. Jesus wants us healed and whole so that we can help others.

Dwelling on events from our past is depressing and at the end of the day we have to accept the past, because it cannot change, and come to peace with it. Blaming our parents, even if they deserve it, is a way of putting our pain on someone else that was probably messed up by their parents too.

Accept,forgive, move on in peace.

Do all Christian Counselor counsel the same? No. I used the model Christ gave me and I have had so many people set free that are now living depression free. Not because of who I am but because of who HE is.

The past cannot be changed but the future can be whatever we want it to be.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

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Even Jesus Was Rejected

So often we suffer rejection of our message about Jesus from our own families.

Even Jesus was not listened to by his own people, yet we cannot understand, often, the rejection of our message by some of those in our own families.

To quote from the Bible, ‘Now Jesus himself had pointed out that a prophet has no honour in his own country’ (John 4:44). Christ also said ‘no prophet is accepted in his home town’ (Luke 4:16-30), and ‘Only in his home town and in his own house is a prophet without honor”

Philip found Nathanael and said to him, “We have found him of whom Moses in the Torah and also the prophets wrote, Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” Nathanael said to him, “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?”

Mark 6:11

And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear you, when ye depart thence, shake off the dust under your feet for a testimony against them. Verily I say unto you, It shall be more tolerable for Sodom and Gomorrha in the day of judgment, than for that city.

Cheer up believers. Even Jesus suffered rejection by those closest to Him.

In God’s Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Living Through Unimaginable Sorrow

Turning against God, when something hurtful happens, is for some understandable. We have all had times when we suffered pain and felt as if God let us down. It was during one of those times in my life where I reached a crossroad with God. I knew I could go down a road without Him or I could decide to trust Him and go on down the road with Him. I fell to my knees and told Him, “I don’t know why you have allowed this but nevertheless you are the only one who truly loves me, unconditionally, and whether you never answer another prayer I pray again, I am going on with you!”

I remember this quote from the movie, “The Shack,” when I need to, I take it out of my bible and read it. It puts everything in perspective for me. God spoke the following…

“Just because I work incredible good out of unspeakable tragedies doesn’t mean I orchestrate the tragedies. Don’t ever assume that my using something means I caused it or that I need it to accomplish my purposes. That will only lead you to false notions about me. Grace doesn’t depend on suffering to exist, but where there is suffering you will find grace in many facets and colors.”

― William P. Young, The Shack

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Guarding Our Hearts

When we spend time with someone regularly we become like them. The intimacy we have with God daily leads us to the same kind of discernment Jesus used when dealing with people. We then have, “The mind of Christ.” Using His discernment we can deal with others the way Jesus did by observing how He dealt with people. Jesus was not afraid to call things out if need be. There is a time to be quiet, beloved, and a time to confront in love.

When I was being taught, by God, how to renew my mind, it was so mind blowing to see the following scripture; John 2:23-24

23 While Jesus was in Jerusalem at the Passover festival, many people believed in him because they saw the miracles that he performed. 24 But Jesus didn’t trust them because he knew human nature. No one needed to tell him what mankind is really like.

So Jesus knew, and we should too, that we have to use discernment when dealing with people because not everyone we come across is who they “appear” to be. Not everyone who told Jesus how wonderful his miracles were really loved Jesus. They loved the miracles but not all loved the miracle maker, God, and Jesus knew that.

In our own lives there are some people who might love what we do for them, but not us. They will use us and then abuse us when they can no longer use us.

I have found that people who have low esteem from years of abuse too easily seek approval of others. Certain users and abusers notice that in us and use it to their advantage. They can show a lot of love and approval but then, in order to get their way, they can refuse to give love and approval. It’s like a drug dealer feeds a junkie drugs and then when they see the person is hooked, they withdraw the drug availability and a junkie will then pay anything to get the drug they crave.

Discerning motives is the part of the mind of Christ, in us, that protects our boundaries.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

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Don’t Stay Depressed Renew Your Mind

When God taught me how to renew my mind my entire life changed for the better.

We become depressed by thinking depressing thoughts and then dwelling in those thoughts.

Sometimes we like the attention that we get from being depressed. Most of the time we just stay depressed because we don’t realize that depression is a choice.

Try this; the minute you start to think about things that depress you say STOP. Then force your mind elsewhere. Play a game, read a book, watch a funny movie. You are in charge of what you think.

If music triggers thoughts of your ex, and that’s why you are depressed, do not listen to that music. Don’t watch romantic movies and don’t drink. Alcohol is a depressant.

You can renew your mind as soon as YOU make up your mind to do so.

Pray and ask God for strength and then just go forward!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

A Christian Cannot Be Cursed

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When we think of Balaam we normally think of the story of Balaam and his donkey. As a matter of fact I often use that talking donkey as an answer to people who believe women should not teach the Word of God. I often say “If God used a donkey to talk to Balaam then he surely can use whomever He chooses to do His talking, even a woman.”

Today I actually want to teach on something that we often miss in Numbers 22. Occasionally, and especially with Halloween coming up at the end of October, I see prayers that people have on Facebook to ask God to deliver them from curses of witches and warlocks. Christians cannot be cursed by any witch or warlock, PERIOD. We often have people who have sat under the wrong teaching. These people, a lot of them taught by ministers in pagan countries, have learned that if they just pay one minister or the other they will give them a magic prayer to have a curse lifted from them. Truthfully, there are a lot of so called ministers in the United States, who being hungry for money, do the same thing. There are many who promise to curse someone for you if you send them money, and if it doesn’t “take” the first time, they then tell you they need more money.

In the time that Numbers 22 occurred there were the same kind of folks. There was fortune tellers, soothsayers, etc, that offered to curse people for money. Balaam, it turns out, was a so called diviner in the Old Testament.

King Balak of Moab was extremely concerned about the Israelites taking over the land. He decided that the thing to do was to hire Balaam to put a curse on the Israelites and that would get rid of them, he believed. I am not, for the sake of writing a long story and losing the reader, going to go into all that is in Numbers 22. I urge you to read it for yourself and by doing that you will see very clearly that NOBODY was able to put a curse on the Israelites.

The city of Alexandria was an occult hub. Egyptian witchcraft, sorcery, wizardry, enchantments, incantations and spells were practiced throughout the city. Balaam had a reputation for being a master sorcerer. Just as we see with so called prophets today, diviners in that day with a great track record made a whole lot of money. King Balak was well aware that hiring Balaam would not be inexpensive but he was so desperate to get rid of the Israelites he was willing to pay whatever it took.

Cutting to the chase Balaam tried THREE times to speak a curse on Israel and could not do it.
Finally he told King Balak, “How can I curse whom God hath not cursed, or how shall I defy, whom the Lord has not died?” Numbers 23:8.

It was absolutely impossible to place a curse on anyone whom God had placed a blessing on.

The Word teaches that when we accepted Christ as our savior, we were grafted into the blessings that Israel received from the Lord. We cannot be cursed by another person. It’s not possible!

God protects His children. I often hear from people who believe that someone has put a curse on their family. This is just one of the places in the bible where we see that Gods’ divine protection cannot be breached by someone operating under, or in cooperation, with the powers of Satan.

Beloved, I encourage you to come out from under the fear that Satan has put on you regarding the possibility of being cursed. If you are in Christ you are blessed of the Lord and as Balaam told Kind Balak, “What God has blessed, no one can curse!”

In His Unconditional Love,
Cathie
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Satan Wants To Destroy You

Satan is not stupid. He has been studying you since the day you were born because his goal, his only goal, is to take as many people to hell with him as possible.

He will bring something or someone that looks like everything you have ever wanted to destroy you.

You will be so thrilled with the person you will forget they aren’t a bible believing Christian. You will be so thrilled with the car you won’t see that you will have to work two jobs to keep it. You will be so in love with the beautiful house on the hill that you will forget the fact that you wanted a starter home to build up equity and not have to rent anymore.

So many times well meaning Christians are in bad situations because of Satan putting something in front of them they really didn’t need in order to destroy them and their peace.

If you are there today pray in contrite sorrow and ask God to forgive you for putting things and people before Him. When we sincerely repent God comes on the scene and delivers us. Learn from the lessons, beloved of the Lord, and vow to God you will not repeat them. Put him in the center of all your decisions and you will do the right thing!

John 10:10 New International Version The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Self Control

Self control is not something we get by gritting our teeth and forcing ourselves to “ just say no.” In the Bible self-control is referred to as a fruit of the Spirit. Fruit doesn’t instantly pop out on a tree. As the tree grows and seasons pass, the fruit naturally develops. As we continue to follow God’s guidance, taking one step at a time, our self control will gradually grow. Our job is to stay connected to God. It’s the Holy Spirit’s job to produce the fruit of self control in our lives. Galatians 5:16-17.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

A Word About The Current Situation

Last night I was feeling fine and got ready for bed. I was tired and looking forward to restful sleep.

As some of you know I have Lupus, IBD and a broken vertebrae with two badly compressed discs. Most days I would rather stay in bed but my husband is now 75% blind and needs my help. I am forced to get up. Perhaps that’s a good thing.

I would never make it without Christ! Never..

Just as I was putting my feet into bed a gut wrenching pain hit my body. Out of nowhere my sciatica was causing the worst pain of my life. I couldn’t understand where this had come from. I hadn’t lifted anything or turned my body suddenly. I was literally crying with pain.

It was then I realized it was an attack from Satan.

As I cried out for God to help me, and prayed and praised in the spirit, the Lord began to download into my spirit a word about the current situation in the World, and especially the USA.

Perhaps the pain was God’s way to still me and get my attention because this morning it’s almost gone.

The Lord said to me, “Daughter Satan’s Army is advancing quickly. The lies are from the pits of hell and it’s becoming harder for a lot of midstream Democrats to stay true to a party who manipulates and uses dirty tricks to obtain their objective of One World Government.

I have used the Kavanaugh situation for several reasons. Kavanaugh was born and raised in privilege and up until now has not experienced the full force of evil coming against him. Now he is awake. Now he sees the dirty tricks for what they are. The anger he expressed was righteous anger. The kind of anger my son had when he went into the temple and said, “You have turned my father’s house into a den of thieves.” Kavanaugh knows now that Satan is working through them and is fully awake.

This is a warning to be aware of your surroundings at all times. People are angry and cannot handle the truth of what is being unleashed on the world. They are not close to me and most don’t want to be as they prefer the works of the flesh. Without a belief in me they are following their base natures. Without belief they are empowered to do what ever comes to their minds.

You are seeing and hearing things being done to children you would never have believed people capable of doing. Satan always attacks the seed of man as it was when Pharaoh gave the command to kill all the Hebrew firstborn. Protect your children with prayer. Teach them to pray. Their angels surround them.

I warn you that you must stay fasting, as often as possible, and praying because prayer and the Word are your greatest weapons against Satan’s Army of evil people. This is not the time to be complacent. Sweet words tickle the ears but the truth of the situation must be shared.

Kavanaugh is the first of many prominent people who are going to have their eyes open to the evil you are fighting against. They will finally see the truth that has been hidden to them because of their lives of wealth and privilege. If you think there will be peace in the world you are mistaken. It will only get worse and when it feels as if you cannot take anymore you will look up and see me coming in the clouds to take you home.

When you stay true to Me you walk in My supernatural favor. I will be moving many of you to different towns, neighborhoods and even countries. You have been assigned a specific place and even specific people are assigned to you. Your bright light will put out the darkness in many peoples lives. Stay plugged into my power. I will see that you have supernatural provision for all I have for you to do in my behalf. Stay humble and kind. I will do miracles in the lives on my people for the very reason that the unsaved will see these miracles and know you have Me working in your lives.

I am putting Christian men and women together to work powerfully in the Kingdom. People who do not belong in my children’s lives will leave them. Let them go because I will replace them with true believers. What do the Children of light have to do with the children of Darkness?

Look at all things happening through the eyes of the kingdom. When you do that it all makes more sense to you and you will not worry. I am in complete control!”

Maranatha!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

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He’s Your Ride Or Die God

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“This is what the Lord says: “When seventy years are completed for Babylon, I will come to you and fulfill my good promise to bring you back to this place. 11For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.b I will gather you from all the nations and places where I have banished you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back to the place from which I carried you into exile.” Jeremiah 29:10-14
Sometimes our lives make absolutely no sense at all. We have a vision of what we want our lives to look like but then things happen that were not in our script. Things like job lay offs, illnesses, tragedies, misunderstandings and betrayals. People come and people go unexpectedly and suddenly we are in the middle of a life we hadn’t planned on having.

In my life I have learned that these changes, these life-events, force us to face our vulnerabilities. Some of these changes we face in life make us realize that we are not perfect and we can’t do things the way we want to do them anymore.

If you are lucky you will have one or two “ride or die” friends that stick by you during these unexpected life changes. But truthfully those friends are rare. There is an old song with a line in it that goes, “Nobody wants you when you are down and out.” Maybe like me you found that out too.

I had one person I considered a ride or die friend, but then I found out she had told things about my life, and problems, to her whole family. As a matter of fact some of them listened in to our phone conversations. That betrayal was painful, but in the long run it only served to bring me closer to God and left her wondering why I no longer wanted to be her friend.

Like me you may have found that God is the only person who you can go to and be honest with about your feelings that will not betray you and derive pleasure from your downfall.

When, due to my husband’s catastrophic illness, we lost our entire savings our life changed in so many ways. Losing our life savings, due to all the things that come along with health challenges that health insurance just doesn’t cover, caused life changes in our living style. We lived in a beautiful 3,000 square foot home at the time, and then, when that got too expensive we leased a home to buy it because our credit was ruined too. We lost that home due to a breach of contract by the crazy owner, and ended up in a small home that we were thankful to have. At one time it looked as if we would be living in our car.

Instead of offering actual help many people either ignored us, gossiped about us, or offered to pray for us. Yes, the prayer is much needed but showing up and just helping works well too. Many times people in life crisis are too depressed to even get dressed so understand that too!

I could go on and on but I know that many of you reading this could tell your own stories. You are here, but holding on to your faith in God like a titanic survivor holding onto a life raft.

Don’t try to make much sense of it because I have found that do to that is a horrible waster of time and brings in a horrible sense of self-pity. You start thinking about one thing that is wrong and then that cascades into a series of thinking of everything else that went wrong. Before you know it you are in bed, can’t get up or get dressed and horribly depressed.

As a counselor I have heard many tales of people trying to cope with life changes in bizarre ways. My favorite by far is the one of a woman whose marriage fail completely apart a week after her husband had sent her a dozen roses at work for her birthday. After bragging to everyone at work about how blessed she was to have him she found out he was not only involved with another woman but the woman was pregnant with his child. She went to the store and bought a case of Jiffy Peanut Butter and sat in bed with a spoon eating it and throwing the empty jars on the floor. When she finally let her mother into the house her mother saw the trail of empty peanut butter jars and spoons and said, “Honey, you have to snap out of this.” Yes, we both laughed about it. However, if you have ever been anywhere close to devastated in life, you can certainly understand.

Until I really experienced it myself I never knew the desperation behind the statement, “What am I going to do now!”

I want you to know that there is hope, you will make it. You don’t think so, but you will. You will come out the other side of this much a much better person then you were before. You will survive.

The key is to come to terms with the problem. Realize it won’t change but that’s okay you ARE GOING TO MAKE IT. Once you can quit feeling sorry for yourself you simple get up, shower, dress and set about to create a new story of your life. In this story you are the heroine that overcomes. You will put one foot in front of the other and survive and learn so much in doing so. One step at a time and one day at a time. You are fierce and you are strong. You are not going to let whatever broke you destroy you. Against all odds you are going to make a new, beautiful life for yourself. The only ones who don’t make it, truthfully, are the ones who don’t accept the truth and determine to move on.

You are going to have to do that anyway, so why not today! Change your story, write a new script. In this story you, like Scarlett O’Hara in Gone With The Wind, make up your mind that as God is your witness you will never be destroyed like this again! You are a survivor. Life messed with the wrong person!

Pray and ask God to help you. He will, He is just waiting for you to get up first. When he healed the man outside of the waters of Bethesda he said to the man, “Get up. Take your mat and get up!” Then, God worked in his behalf and healed him. He will do the same for you!

In God’s Unconditional Love,
Cathie Miller

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