He’s Your Ride Or Die God

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“This is what the Lord says: “When seventy years are completed for Babylon, I will come to you and fulfill my good promise to bring you back to this place. 11For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.b I will gather you from all the nations and places where I have banished you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back to the place from which I carried you into exile.” Jeremiah 29:10-14
Sometimes our lives make absolutely no sense at all. We have a vision of what we want our lives to look like but then things happen that were not in our script. Things like job lay offs, illnesses, tragedies, misunderstandings and betrayals. People come and people go unexpectedly and suddenly we are in the middle of a life we hadn’t planned on having.

In my life I have learned that these changes, these life-events, force us to face our vulnerabilities. Some of these changes we face in life make us realize that we are not perfect and we can’t do things the way we want to do them anymore.

If you are lucky you will have one or two “ride or die” friends that stick by you during these unexpected life changes. But truthfully those friends are rare. There is an old song with a line in it that goes, “Nobody wants you when you are down and out.” Maybe like me you found that out too.

I had one person I considered a ride or die friend, but then I found out she had told things about my life, and problems, to her whole family. As a matter of fact some of them listened in to our phone conversations. That betrayal was painful, but in the long run it only served to bring me closer to God and left her wondering why I no longer wanted to be her friend.

Like me you may have found that God is the only person who you can go to and be honest with about your feelings that will not betray you and derive pleasure from your downfall.

When, due to my husband’s catastrophic illness, we lost our entire savings our life changed in so many ways. Losing our life savings, due to all the things that come along with health challenges that health insurance just doesn’t cover, caused life changes in our living style. We lived in a beautiful 3,000 square foot home at the time, and then, when that got too expensive we leased a home to buy it because our credit was ruined too. We lost that home due to a breach of contract by the crazy owner, and ended up in a small home that we were thankful to have. At one time it looked as if we would be living in our car.

Instead of offering actual help many people either ignored us, gossiped about us, or offered to pray for us. Yes, the prayer is much needed but showing up and just helping works well too. Many times people in life crisis are too depressed to even get dressed so understand that too!

I could go on and on but I know that many of you reading this could tell your own stories. You are here, but holding on to your faith in God like a titanic survivor holding onto a life raft.

Don’t try to make much sense of it because I have found that do to that is a horrible waster of time and brings in a horrible sense of self-pity. You start thinking about one thing that is wrong and then that cascades into a series of thinking of everything else that went wrong. Before you know it you are in bed, can’t get up or get dressed and horribly depressed.

As a counselor I have heard many tales of people trying to cope with life changes in bizarre ways. My favorite by far is the one of a woman whose marriage fail completely apart a week after her husband had sent her a dozen roses at work for her birthday. After bragging to everyone at work about how blessed she was to have him she found out he was not only involved with another woman but the woman was pregnant with his child. She went to the store and bought a case of Jiffy Peanut Butter and sat in bed with a spoon eating it and throwing the empty jars on the floor. When she finally let her mother into the house her mother saw the trail of empty peanut butter jars and spoons and said, “Honey, you have to snap out of this.” Yes, we both laughed about it. However, if you have ever been anywhere close to devastated in life, you can certainly understand.

Until I really experienced it myself I never knew the desperation behind the statement, “What am I going to do now!”

I want you to know that there is hope, you will make it. You don’t think so, but you will. You will come out the other side of this much a much better person then you were before. You will survive.

The key is to come to terms with the problem. Realize it won’t change but that’s okay you ARE GOING TO MAKE IT. Once you can quit feeling sorry for yourself you simple get up, shower, dress and set about to create a new story of your life. In this story you are the heroine that overcomes. You will put one foot in front of the other and survive and learn so much in doing so. One step at a time and one day at a time. You are fierce and you are strong. You are not going to let whatever broke you destroy you. Against all odds you are going to make a new, beautiful life for yourself. The only ones who don’t make it, truthfully, are the ones who don’t accept the truth and determine to move on.

You are going to have to do that anyway, so why not today! Change your story, write a new script. In this story you, like Scarlett O’Hara in Gone With The Wind, make up your mind that as God is your witness you will never be destroyed like this again! You are a survivor. Life messed with the wrong person!

Pray and ask God to help you. He will, He is just waiting for you to get up first. When he healed the man outside of the waters of Bethesda he said to the man, “Get up. Take your mat and get up!” Then, God worked in his behalf and healed him. He will do the same for you!

In God’s Unconditional Love,
Cathie Miller

If you are interested in Christian counseling please contact me through my webpage contact page which can be found through the link below. I counsel over the phone and you pay through PayPal.

www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com

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Spiritual Counseling

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I wanted to let folks know that I offer Spiritual Counseling. If you have never had Spiritual Counseling before you will be surprised at the difference between it and regular counseling.

In Spiritual Counseling the session that you have is totally Holy Spirit driven. Each session lasts for one hour. I can do it over the phone an/or online.

The sessions are built around your schedule as I counsel at night also. I work up until 10PM Mountain Time and also on weekends.

It always amazes me at how the Holy Spirit shows up and reveals to me things about your life, both presently and in the past, that explain what is currently happening in your life. The counsel is backed by scriptures and biblical based knowledge pertaining to your specific area of concern.

If interested please go to HelpforGodsHurtingPeople.com and fill out a contact form. I will then send you information on how it works.

I did a counseling session yesterday that totally caught myself and the woman I was counseling off guard. In a beautiful way God addressed her problem and explained to us both what was happening currently for her and why. She was very thankful and so was I.

Look forward to seeing what God has in store for you!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

Life’s Wilderness Experiences

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“For my thoughts are not your thoughts,

neither are your ways my ways,” Isaiah 55:8

 

The wilderness. What is the wilderness experience with God? It’s always been, in my life, a time where it feels as if I am going around and around in circles and getting absolutely nowhere.

 

The wilderness is a place where God sent people who would one day lead others. Jesus of course spent 40 days and nights in the wilderness. Moses was sent to “the dark side of the mountain” during his wilderness experience. In both of these cases the wilderness experience was not due to disobedience by Jesus or Moses. In those cases they listened to God, learned to grow closer to God and developed the character they would need to sustain their calling.

 

The wilderness is where God sent the backsliding, complaining and doubting Israelites for forty years. That was their own fault and the forty years there was no fun I am sure.

 

In my case I have had wilderness experiences that I brought on myself through disobedience to God. I have had wilderness experiences where God fed into my spirit and taught me to trust only Him and develop a character that was strong enough to hold on to Him regardless of what happened. Those experiences were used to teach others how to do the same.

 

It’s amazing to me that a lot of wilderness experiences follow times of high mountain top experiences. You are on top of the world, perhaps have a new baby, a new home, a promotion, got married, bought the car you always wanted and then BOOM, out of the blue something happens to wake you up from your pride. Something happens that shakes your soul to the core, and there you are again. You are back in the wilderness with daddy God asking Him, “Why, why now?”

 

What you learn, as a believer, really quickly in the wilderness is that you are not as alone as you think you are. God is there with you. You get to know Him in a way that you would never had experienced Him had this thing that put you back in the wilderness never happened.

 

There is a purpose for the wilderness experiences of life. They increase our faith because one way or another God moves us out of the wilderness experiences and sets our feet on solid ground again.

 

After awhile you will be amazed at how calm you can remain when these circumstances of life, that are not pleasant, blind sight you. A peace will come over you that surrounds your whole being and you know that God is with you and, even though you don’t know how, you know that He is going to work this thing out to your benefit. So you relax, you say, “God, I don’t know how you are going to do it, but I do know you are going to work it all out for my good.”

 

The sooner you come to terms with God doing all things that happen in your life for your GOOD, the sooner you come out of the wilderness and back into your promised land.

 

Not everyone has perfect children, a perfect job, and a sweet loving family, a lovely home and financial security. You are fooling yourself when you compare your life to someone like that. They have had, or will have, wilderness experiences too. There is not a Christian who truly walks with God who is not tested!

 

Years ago I had a neighbor who I would look at in envy. God had to really deal with me about that envious spirit. But one day in prayer I said to God, as a fairly new Christian, “How come you never let anything bad happen to ********?” Clear as a bell God spoke to me, “You were not there in her childhood. She had the most horrific childhood you could imagine. You have no idea what she went through! She has suffered more there anyone you know. What I do with my other children should be of no concern of yours! Everyone has a story, you just don’t know them all!”

 

Believe it when I tell you that God has a purpose for every thing we go through. We may never know the purpose. Sometimes in life we do get to look back and say, “Oh, God if I had not experienced that terrible time I would not know what to do to help this person, or what to say. I would not have compassion for that person had I not been through the same thing.”

 

I don’t know it all, and I won’t tell you I do. I know my Father God through. I know He loves me and I know that He uses the wilderness experiences to bring us to the hilltops!

 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Today Is Your Day

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We know that God does not listen to sinners. He listens to the godly person who does his will. John 9:31

The LORD is far from the wicked, but he hears the prayer of the righteous. Proverbs 15:29

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness. 2 Timothy 3:16

Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth. 2nd Timothy 2:15

Earlier today I wrote a little blog regarding the vision the Lord gave me today about people who I was bringing to prayer. Don’t feel left out if you are not on my prayer list, because I ask God to answer the prayers of all who come to the ministry or my blog page. I say that because I believe that God wants you all to know that He has sent angels to destroy the works of the devil that are delaying prayer answers.

I know that some of you are at the point of wanting to give up. Your life is rough and times are hard and you want to believe in God and live your life for Him but your situation is getting desperate.

As I said, in my earlier blog post today, as I prayed this morning God showed me a Warrior Angel. The Warrior Angel had a sword in a sheath by his side. Suddenly I looked and there were demonic spirits standing in front of God’s people. They seemed to be stopping the prayer answers and they were gleeful about it. The Warrior Angel did not hesitate. He took the sword out of its sheath and walked forward and swiftly cut the heads off the demons rendering them useless and cutting off their power.

Some of you are at the point of giving up something that is holding you back from walking in the Super Natural Power of God. You know what it is. It’s got a hold on you and you can’t seem to quit it. Until you give this to God you are not going any further in the Spirit. You know it and God knows it too.

As you ask God today, for one more time, to deliver you from the thing that is holding back your blessings God is sending a Warrior Angel to cut the head of that demon off and render it powerless in your life. Give it one more chance because this is your time. This is your hour. Confess it, ask God to deliver you and the head of the thing is going and you are going to walk free.

I don’t like to sound judgmental, but on the other hand I cannot lie. I cannot lie to you just so you will like me. As long as you consider yourself saved and still walk in sin you will not get the prayer answers you so desperately are seeking.

I put the scriptures above as proof of this. God answers the prayers of the righteous person.

As I started studying and contemplating this today God led me to this scripture in Proverbs 12:8, “The Godly are rescued from trouble, and it falls on the wicked instead.”

The Godly are those who are walking blamelessly before God.

People don’t want to hear this and I understand but I have to tell you that if you want to see signs and wonders in your life your life needs to be free of sin. Not perfect, but sin free. The things that God saved you from should no longer have a hold over you.

You cannot live like hell and expect the blessings of heaven.

If our prayers are not getting answers it’s because we haven’t taken up our cross in certain areas of our lives that are not pleasing to God.

We are all meant to walk with signs and wonders following us, but until we do what’s right in the eyes of God we will not see those things and our lives will consist of just barely sliding in to heaven or possibly going to hell and taking other believers with us. If we know what is right and we don’t do it, we are not only cheating God but also the others who look up to us.

Now is the time. I know God was showing me that He is ready to cut the sin that’s holding you back out of your life. He’s sent a Warrior Angel to do it. Give it to Him. This is your day of deliverance.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

 

 

 

 

Controllng Your Anger

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When we respond to things we do not like, or things that trigger us, with anger, bitterness and rebellion our lives are out of control. I am not talking about an occasional time of losing our temper, because we all do that. I am talking about a life that includes uncontrollable behavior on a daily basis.

 

First we have to be willing to change, and then we have to ask God to help us. If we could change on our own we would do it. We need the supernatural power of God to help us overcome our triggers.

 

In the gospel of Mark we see the power of Jesus displayed over and over again.

 

Jesus raised the dead, gave sight to the blind, restored deformed limbs, made lame people walk, cast out demons, healed incurable skin diseases, and quieted storms.

 

Jesus is a powerful savior and He is able to do the impossible when we ask Him to do so. Jesus came to help us. We know that because of His painful death on the cross of Calvary, which he endured so that He could free us from our bondages to sin and give us eternal life.

 

The problem we have is that we like to appear to be strong and handle things ourselves. We usually don’t go to Jesus for help until we have exhausted all others means of help.

 

He is much more powerful then any of our dependencies, problems and weaknesses. He has the power to help us with any problem we have that seems impossible. All we have to do is look to Him and say, “HELP!”

 

We ask for His help, in the name of Jesus. The powerful name of Jesus is miraculous. I cannot tell you the times I call on that name when things are seemingly too hard for me to bear. Truthfully, He has never let me down. When I come to Him He wipes my tears and gives me strength to get through any circumstance.

 

Come to Him today, Beloved. Decide not to spend another day responding to things the way you always have responded to things. If your method worked you would be free of anger, bitterness and a bad temper. He is waiting for you to ask for His help!

 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

 

The Heartbreak Of Family Estrangement

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Some of you will understand this, others will not, but I am going to say it anyway.

I was thinking today about the wonderful, fun get-togethers my family once had. Simple fun, laughter and good food. Then certain people marry into a family and they seem to be jealous of that closeness and they set out to spread lies and tear a family apart.

When we marry into families we need to NOT be jealous of our spouses other family members. It’s ridiculous to act like that. One day you will look back on that and realize how much time you wasted like that. Time you can never get back. 

Jealousy and fighting are straight from the pits of hell. Do not be jealous of the relationship your spouse has with their parents or brothers and sisters. They are not going to leave you because of those relationships. Your spouse will love you much more for loving their family. On the other hand when you divide your spouse from their family they will hold resentment against you. They may not say anything but they will resent you for coming against those they love and expecting them to choose between you or them.

I know sometimes things are said and done by family members that we don’t like. We have to let those things slide off our backs. Surely God has given us enough Grace that we can overlook these things for a few days of a visit once a year. It’s called respect.

Spend time together, forget your grudges! 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

It Hurts But I Am Closer To Acceptance

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Can we talk? At first I wasn’t going to publish this. It shows my feelings are raw. I am usually the encouragement person. But then I prayed and felt led to share it anyway. We all are trying to be perfect. We know we don’t have to be, but we try. But the truth is we are human, in suits of flesh. We need each other. So I am publishing this. We are all pilgrims in this place longing for our home in heaven where God will wipe away each tear. So I am sharing this as I feel impressed by God that many can relate!

 

It hurts But I Am Closer To Acceptance

We are too hard on ourselves. When we have bad relationships with people we should either ignore it or change it. If it’s someone that is constantly uncaring, hurtful and rude it might be best to leave those people alone as much as possible. But what if it’s family? Someone you have to spend certain times with because of your spouse? It’s best to get along, in those situations, because of keeping family peace.

I have always been a “why” person. It’s who I am. I like a challenge. Because of that I will analyze a situation and make it better if I see area’s in which I might need to change.

So I looked at a certain situation and recognized area’s I needed to grow and change in. I prayed about it and I changed. I was sick of being a couple of folks emotional scapegoat. Everything I did was wrong, I was conspiring constantly to make their life miserable, according to them. I could say so much more but some of you will understand. 

I changed, I quit getting involved with anything that was none of my business. I was kind and I was understanding and went out of my way to please them.

And you know what? Nothing changed. Nothing changed because these people had made me the wicked witch of the Southwest and they were used to me being the excuse for a bad relationship with another family member. They thought “we win,” and we aren’t going to change.”

Lesson learned. Sometimes we need to change our behavior around certain people. When, with the help of God, we do change and we are still ignored, used and emotionally abused it’s time to realize it is what it is and again set boundaries.

I am thankful for God’s Unconditional Love that continues to remind me that I too am loved.

 My life is pretty hard. Because of my husband’s physical condition I have to take care of him and everything else by myself. He was in the hospital for 3 months and had seven operations. We lost everything we had because of our medical bills, even with insurance. It’s a challenge to put food on the table and vacations, buying gifts, well we just don’t have the money. We drive a sixteen year old car. We moved from our first rental here into a lease-to-own. We were thrilled thinking we would never have to move again. Then, the landlord decided he didn’t want to do a  lease to own, he wanted the money immediately and we didn’t have it. So we had to move and we had to borrow money from two different loan companies, my daughter and two sweet friends to do it. I pray daily for a way to buy a home. I am working hard to repair our credit scores to do so. In the meantime I thank God to just have a roof over my head. I want to move closer to friends and  some family in the Rio Rancho NM area, but I am stuck. These are folks who would be there the minute I called. So I trust God. When the time comes He will open doors for us.

Looking at a picture recently, of me at 20, I would never have imagined this would be my life in old age. It is what it is.

God gets us through each day with miracles only Chuck and I are aware of them. I build others up in faith because it also builds me up. I love Daddy God because he has said “I am with you always, never will I leave you or forsake you.”

If you think that any of us could get through our problems alone, without the faithfulness of God you are wrong. I am so blessed to be his daughter. But I have been too hard on myself at times. I don’t always need to repair all the cracks in my pot, so that those in my family might treat me better, those cracks are where HIS light shines through. Amen? I know so many of my readers can relate. Satan and those he uses tried to break us…

It didn’t work! Ha ha devil!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

@belovedhandmdn1@aol.com

 

 

A Word From God 5/9/18

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“You know the truth  but you are in denial. As you decide to close a door I will suddenly open another one in front of you. The truth is there, face it and go forward with your life. You are embarrassed to have made a mistake. In the future you must come to me in prayer when you need to make a decision that will greatly affect your life. Do not be embarrassed. You would be surprised at the number of people who have seen these things too but are currently keeping their mouths closed about it.”

Jeremiah 29:11-13 New International Version

11 For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

Your Answer Is On It’s Way!

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For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
 neither are your ways my ways, declares the LORD. Isaiah 55:8

 

When your answer to your prayers comes it may come quickly and in a different way then you had ever imagined. You must accept that and not resist it, even though it didn’t come in the way you imagined it would.

 

A woman I know had a job for fifteen years that she absolutely hated. Nevertheless, she was making a nice amount of money and felt like she was stuck. She prayed and prayed for God to open the door to a new opportunity that paid her as well, if not more then she was making at her current position.

 

One day, because of the company having to cut back, she lost her job through being laid off. She called me, devastated and in tears. Immediately I said to her, “But you have been praying for over a year to get another job. Maybe this is God’s way of getting you to finally look for something else.” Believe it or not, even in this economy, she found another job within three weeks of being laid off and this new job will pay her much more then what she was making at the old one.

 

We all have ways that we think God is going to perform our miracle. We get our minds fixed on God doing something one way and one way only. A lot of times we don’t move forward because of fear of the unknown. God is aware of that, and knows that He needs to create circumstances to move us forward, or we will stay stuck in a situation that is less then perfect for a long time.

 

I had prayed for a way to get away from my abusive ex-husband for years. He was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive to me. Because I am an orphan and an only child there was actually no “human” help for me, in getting my own place and getting away from him. I lived with him as a roommate for a long time, and seeing his constant “running around” with women, and his total disregard for my feelings caused a great deal of emotional turmoil in my life. I was, however, stuck. I prayed and prayed for a financial miracle.

 

I have talked before about the day his married mistress showed up at my door, that was a very painful situation, but it allowed me to move out of the home when she convinced my ex husband to give me a check to do so. Overnight, I was free and had a way out of the situation. It didn’t happen like I thought or hoped it would, it was painful, but God moved me out.

 

Some of you are probably one hour, one day, one month away from your miracle, but when it happens it may not be in the way you expected it. God will move though, and when He does it may be in a totally different way then you wanted it to be. I tell you this, except your freedom, from the bondage of your problem, with thanksgiving, as God’s ways are perfect.

 

When you start praying for your miracle, things may temporarily seem to get worse. Things may get stirred up a bit. Before the children of Israel were released from their bondage they went through a total of nine plaques. During this time Moses was asking Pharaoh for their release. Pharaoh tried to compromise with Moses. He said he would allow the children of Israel to go out into the wilderness to sacrifice to their God, but they must return to Egypt. Moses refused to compromise. Finally, the Israelites gained their freedom from Egypt and left for the Promised Land, without having to compromise.

 

If we accept compromise we will remain in bondage to our situations. Like Moses we may have to say “no” to compromising many times. When we refuse to settle for compromising, then complete freedom comes.

 

Often, I think, we are like the Hebrews who did not appreciate Moses when he tried to rescue them. I often give guidance to a person, through the discernment of the Lord, that they refuse to accept. People want their answers, “their way.” Sometimes people are not willing to make the effort to gain freedom from bondage. I totally understand that. I can assure you, as in my own case, God will change your situation overnight, when He wants it changed.

 

There are always ways out of our difficulties and if we refuse to take a different route in our stubbornness, God will still deliver us. If it at first seems fearful don’t despair of your situation. Think back about your prayers. God doesn’t forget them; even if at times He seems a bit slow to us in these suits of flesh. What we may perceive to be a problem, at first, just may be God’s answer in a different way then we expected it!

 

Father, You always answer our prayers. You show us ways out our “messes”, and even if we rebel, You still answer our prayers in Your own timing and Your own way. Help us today to accept that, and look for the good that is often hidden in bad situations. In Your Name, the Name above all names we pray. Amen and Amen,

A Word From God 05/06/2018

“I hear your prayers for your loved one. I know you are getting weary waiting for a change to be seen or heard regarding this situation.

I have a very specific timetable. There are things that need to occur before you see a positive solution.

I never act in haste, when I arrange a change it is a permanent one.

Total surrender only occurs when every other avenue of resistance to it has been closed.

Why would I give my children half a miracle? I will not allow anything or anyone to come to you that would hurt you again. So be still and be patient. When your prayer is answered, in this regard, it will be answered PERFECTLY.”

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD.” Isaiah 55:8