So You Are Alone For Valentines Day..

img_1570I was remembering this morning that Valentines Day for single people can be an uncomfortable time. You look around and it seems like everyone has someone but you. It can be depressing but it doesn’t have to be.

First of all it’s only one day. Anyone can get through 24 hrs. Secondly if you are alone believe that God has your special person in preparation for you,and only you,and when the time is right you will meet. To attract your person become the person YOU would want your someone to be.

Don’t become unequally yoked. Don’t be so eager for that person that you settle for someone who doesn’t have the same beliefs that you have in God. A lot of us had bad relationships, in the past, because we saw someone “we just had to have” and overlooked the fact that our Spirituality was nowhere near theirs. We think we can change them but that doesn’t happen and the constant struggle between light and darkness is draining.

I take that one step further with those who come to me for relationship counseling. I say make sure that their level of belief matches yours. For instance if you have a close intimate relationship with God then dating a brand new believer can be frustrating. Make a list of what you want in a person. Put 5 things on the list that you refuse to compromise about. Don’t allow yourself to become so lonely that you settle.

Sometimes that gorgeous person is a trap. Be realistic, if you were Satan would you send an ugly person to trap a believer?

Love really is eternal. Don’t be stuck for eternity with someone that makes your life on earth a living hell.

Be patient for one more Valentines Day. Your perfect gift from God is being prepared for you! Now repeat after me. ITS ONLY ONE DAY!

In His Unconditional Love,


The Real Meaning of Unconditional Love


“And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

Ephesians 3-17-19

How many times do we do something that we know we should not do, or how many times do we remember things we did in that past, and wonder if God really loves us and how many times to we truly believe, in our heart of hearts that God has forgiven us completely?

This morning my husband and I were discussing God’s unconditional love. We often hear of people doing things or see them doing things and we think, “God, that person is a demon right from hell, why do you put up with it? Why don’t you strike them down?”

In the Old Testament my favorite example of someone feeling that way was the story of Jonah. He looked at the things the people in Nineveh were doing and to him these folks seemed beyond hope.

God spoke to Jonah to go and tell these people of God’s love and salvation and Jonah actually ran from God and, at first, refused to do so. God had other ways of getting Jonah back in line, and we all remember that story of Jonah being inside the belly of the whale after he was thrown off the ship he had used to escape from God’s voice.

Finally, Jonah, through hard circumstances, saw the light and returned back to Nineveh and through his preaching many were saved and turned away from the things they were doing to displease God. (Book of Jonah Chapter 4)

In order to understand God’s deep love for us we must first understand that we are His children.

My husband and I were talking about some of our children that have grieved our hearts and disappointed us with their hurtful actions. We had to admit that even though they hurt and disappoint us we never get over that love, deep inside us, for our children and we always pray for miracles and that they will come to know God personally. Not just know of Him, but know HIM PERSONALLY!

If you want to understand God’s unconditional love then please think about someone whom you love more then life itself. A family member, a friend or whomever it may be.

Deep in your heart you dream of the time you can be reconciled with that person and pray to God to save them. I know you do that because it’s human nature.

Other people may have given up on you, or one of their loved ones, but God never will. That is unconditional love and it transcends all situations and anything we could ever do!

God has not turned His back on us. We may feel distant from Him but that’s our problem. Not His problem.

Know that you and I are never so far away from Christ that we cannot be brought back into His presence.

He loves us unconditionally. He stands at the door of our hearts today and knocks loudly. Isn’t it time we let Him back in!


Overcoming Trials Successfully



The problem is that somewhere along the way we got the idea that because we are saved, Christian and/or good people nothing should ever happen to us that is bad. Our lives should be perfect, we falsely believe, and if something goes wrong we are tempted to start grumbling to God. In fact, even the most mature Christian will grumble in the midst of what we perceive to be bad or unfair situations.

It was during one of those hard times in my life that I began to grumble to God about a situation I was experiencing. I said to God,during my prayer time one morning, “Why are you allowing this to happen to me God? I help your people, I often counsel for free! Blah, blah, blah. What am I doing wrong?” I continued on like this for a bit and then I stopped and started crying and feeling sorry for myself. In the midst of this God spoke to my heart, “You haven’t done anything wrong, as a matter of fact I am well pleased with you. It’s for this reason that Satan is attacking you.” I said, ” What about ******* Lord, she is a demon from hell and NOTHING bad ever happens to her, as a matter of fact you just blessed her with a new car and I am driving a twelve year old clunker” Immediately God’s thoughts came into my head, He said,”That’s exactly the truth. Satan already has her, and he doesn’t waste his time bothering someone who is already living for him whether consciously or subconsciously.”

Through that experience,and many, many more like it, I have come to realize that the devil is the ever-constant enemy of a bible believing, on fire for Jesus, Christian. We never get to the point where he will leave us alone. Discouragement is his favorite tool and he uses it to make the Christian shake her fist at God and sometimes walk away in unbelief.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

The above scripture is absolute truth. We cannot escape the fiery darts of the devil but we can live peacefully in the midst of them. One day we will live eternally with Jesus and all tears will be wiped away. In the meantime we have to find the strength within us to stay calm and peaceful, no matter what happens. God doesn’t cause bad things to happen but He knows that every now and then they will happen and when they do He will come to us and walk us through anything that happens victoriously.

By refusing to give in to fear and sorrow we can walk daily ,content with our situations, knowing that God is in our midst and will walk with us and walk us out of each situation victoriously.

If you notice you can tell the extent of a person’s relationship with God by how they handle problems. When a person puts their eyes on God and not on the problem they are growing with Christ. A Christian who is mostly a pew sitter without strong relationship with God will fall apart.

Even the strongest Christian may initially fall apart in the midst of severe situations. The difference is that sooner or later they take their eyes off the situation and put them on Jesus. They find a scripture and no matter how bad things may look they quote it back to the devil. They say,”Yes, I know this looks bad God, but I walk by faith not by sight. You have said you work all things out for GOOD for those who love you and are called according to your purposes. So I am resting and accepting this situation. I know that you love me and only want the best for my life so I am content in you, no matter what happens in this situation!”

When stuff happens, and it will, refuse to entertain the what ifs. “But God, what if this happens or that happens?”

I once had someone that became very mad at me. Her brother was very ill and he was the only family she had left. I prayed and counseled with her and reminded her to keep her eyes on Jesus and her brother still died.

She called me angry and said, “You said Jesus was with me! Why did He not answer my prayer and let my brother live?” I then explained to her that her brother had the ultimate healing. He went to live with Jesus in heaven. Heaven is a beautifully calm place where peace abounds and all there are healed. To us, with our human reasoning, death is the worse thing that can happen to a person. We see this world and we want to remain. If we understood how wonderful it is to be in the presence of God in heaven we would all want to go there as soon as possible.

Death of our loved ones is hard on us because we want them to be with us. We have to know though that death takes away THEIR pain and sorrow and gives them life eternally in a much, much better place then this physical world.

Whatever you are currently experiencing will not last forever. Turn it over to God, release it and let Him know that you are okay with His will being done, no matter what happens.

God is with you. Take a deep breath, then release it. Take several, if need be and repeat the following, “I am at peace with my situation today God, knowing that your perfect will WILL be done in it!” Then release it and every time you start to stress over it, STOP. Then repeat the breathing, releasing and affirming God’s best for you life, again. The choice to stress or not stress is ours and ours alone. We cannot control bad situations but we can learn to live in perfect peace in the midst of them!

In His Unconditional Love,

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