Peace In The Midst Of Our Enemies

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Peace In The Midst of Enemies

The 23rd Psalm has always comforted me.  I memorized it as a child, and would repeat it at night before going to sleep, for comfort. My uncle had given me a little bible for Christmas. I went through the bible cover to cover and it was at the front of it that someone had printed out the 23rd psalm in the bible for children. My family didn’t go to church in those days, and yet God had his hand on me and led me to scripture for comfort.


I was thinking today about the 5th verse of the 23rd Psalm, which says “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil, my cup runs over.”


This verse is interesting as it implies that even in the midst of our enemies, even when sitting right there with them, we have the anointing of the Holy Spirit and we need not fear them. In fact the anointing is so great that it literally pours out of the cup and runs over!


In the Old Testament “Oil” is used as a symbol for the Holy Spirit! Think about your life today, right now! Whom do you fear? What do you fear? Maybe, because of life’s difficult situations these days, you may have to literally sit down at a table in the presence of someone in your home who is an enemy. It may be a person who is totally against God and living their life as if going to hell is their goal. You can sit down in front of this person and thank God that you have the anointing that He has poured over you and nothing this person says or does can touch you!


Maybe your enemy today is lack of money, maybe it’s illness, and maybe it’s depression. Whatever that situation is that you are “sitting” with today, you will come out victorious if you can align your mind with that scripture. God doesn’t lie. Lying is not in Him. Write that scripture verse down. Have faith in it, and believe it. Nothing, or no person that you are in the midst of today, will have the victory! You will overcome by the anointing of the Holy Spirit in the midst of your problem.


We don’t’ spend enough time talking about the Holy Spirit these days, but we should! When Jesus ascended to Heaven he assured us that he was not leaving us alone. He told us that He was leaving the Comforter with us, in the “person” of the Holy Spirit.


There are times, when in the midst of adversaries, you may have to repeat that verse over and over in your head until you “feel” peace. You will be surprised at how getting your thoughts on that verse gets your thoughts off of the person across from you!


Wherever we are, whatever is going on, God is with us and we have the anointing. I have had times where I had to deal with an unpleasant situation or person that was filling me with anxiety. I learned to pray beforehand “Father, please anoint me with the Holy Spirit, send angels before me to prepare my way before I have to meet with this person.” I want you to know that simple prayer has never failed me yet!


Give it a try yourself! Believe and have faith in The Word of God!  People are human, people fail us, the Word of God never fails!


Father, we thank you today that your Word never fails. Give us peace in the midst of enemies. Your peace Father is so surreal that it astounds those around us when you flood it over us, in the midst of our trials. Thank you Father for “Peaces that surpasses all understanding” In Your Name the Name Above All Names we pray. Amen and Amen.



Jesus Can Set You Free And Keep You Free


Sometimes we have to let people go for their own good. We cannot carry people,through prayer, forever. At a certain point in our walk with God we have to quit eating baby food and start eating solid food. At a certain point we have to grow enough to step out and use what we have learned to help grow others in Christ. We cannot help others until we get free from things that hold us back. Why? Because people see that as hypocrisy. They then turn away from God and some never come back! I did that for years before I was completely set free from things ruining my testimony. 

If there is no growth it’s because we are sitting around singing the blues, full of self pity,  instead of trusting God to show us how to live joyful in good times and bad. It takes work that no other human being can do for us. 

Remember when Jesus said to the man at the pool of Bethesda, “Get up, take up your mat and walk.” The man had complained to Jesus that he had no one to help him to the pool for healing. Jesus healed him, but then put the responsibility right back on him.

It’s wonderful when Christians pray for us! It builds our faith when God answers their prayers for us.

It takes us making a decision to follow God,no matter how we are feeling, to stay healed. 

God healed me of depression several years ago. But that doesn’t mean depression doesn’t try to come back on me, because it does. I have been taught by God that I cannot give in to depression. You know some of my life, but I am pretty sure you don’t know all. Believe me when I tell you that I have a lot of reasons to stay depressed. The only way to be joyful, is for me to choose joy. If I start to think about my life and feel sorry for myself I can go down into depression really quickly. 

God has taught me that when I feel the first little bit of self pity I simply STOP and put my mind on God. I praise Him for anything I can think of. I read the Word, I read the encouragement others put online, I put on worship music and raise my hands and worship. 

It’s not always easy. But it works. You may not be battling depression you may be battling drugs, alcohol, anger, pornography. Whatever it is, you can get it off your mind and out of your life the same way!

We cannot spend the next five or ten years taking one step forward and two steps back and then expecting our friends to do the work that  we  need to do to stay free!

Someone, right now Jesus is saying “It’s time to get free and never go backwards! As you make an effort to take responsibility and stay free, I will meet you right where you are and keep you free!” 

God loves you! He really does! You have work to do in the Kingdom! Take up your mat and WALK!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

Living Through Unexpected Loss


At my age I have lived through a lot of people I knew, and a lot of people I loved,dying. It’s the unexpected deaths that are the hardest. The first unexpected death I remember was a friend who simply dropped dead on the basketball court,at Manzano High School in Albuquerque, when he was fifteen years old. We later found out he had a heart problem nobody was aware of.

We never expect to lose our loved ones. I lost both of my parents when I was young. It was the times,and the memories of those times, holidays, birthdays, that were so lonely without them. There were times when I reached a goal or got a promotion and I was excited and felt like calling my greatest supporters, mom and dad, and they weren’t there. There were the Mother’s and Father’s Day celebrations where all of the other people I knew had their parent and I was alone.

I went through years of depression due to being alone in the world. I really understand loss because of struggling through my own.

Sometimes people ask me, “How can you still believe in God after all the losses you have suffered?”

I cling to Him because I have found he will never leave us, never turn against us, and he loves us unconditionally even when we aren’t being loving. He is my Heavenly Father and Mother!

When we come to crossroads in our lives we have a choice. When things seem horribly unfair we have a choice. When we lose someone unexpectedly we have a choice. We can trust God or curse God.

I choose to believe that all things in my life work together for good. I choose to believe that God has a plan and that He uses the hardest things in our lives to take us, like lumps of coal, and turn us into diamonds.

As hard as life can be I could never make it without Him.


A Day In The Life Of This Christian


Chuck and I pray together for our children, grandchildren and great grandson in the morning and in the evening and sometimes in between if we know something is happening that needs prayer. We ALWAYS quote the scripture from Isaiah 54:17, “No weapon formed against us shall prosper.”

Prayer is so powerful. Not everyone in our family is saved. Some are saved and backslidden. Some are not speaking to us, and though it breaks our hearts, and we don’t know WHY, we continue to pray for them.

I urge you to pray for family, even those who hurt you. Yesterday I wrote a blog post about “suddenly.” God has laid on my heart that nothing is permanent in this world and that those we never dreamed of dying so soon can go in an instant. Suddenly they are gone.

Looking back on my life I realize how “suddenly’s” have shaped my life. Losing my mom and dad suddenly, meeting my husband suddenly, Chuck surviving open heart surgery to suddenly get a flesh-eating virus, I could go on. Life is full of things changing in the blink of an eye.

In life you can’t change anyone but yourself and most of the time we cannot change ourselves without asking for God’s help. But still we pray for miracles. We want everyone with us eternally. But everyone has free will. God made us like that because he doesn’t want to force us to love him. If we have to force someone to love us, what kind of love is that?

Yesterday the Lord reminded me of two things, prayer for our family is so important, and how things can change in an instant. One of our daughter in laws was driving in Denver yesterday. She went under a pedestrian walkway, a piece of ice the size of a basketball almost crashed through her window on the drivers side. It almost went through. I have no doubt that without God’s intervening it would have been a very different outcome. That happened suddenly. No warning, and completely out of her control BUT “No weapon formed against her prospered” Isaiah 54:17 It scared her, ruined the windshield but she is alive to live the rest of her life. I believe it’s the power of our prayers. Satan will throw his weapons against us and ours, but through praying that won’t prosper.

Are you ready if today you experience “suddenly?” I pray to God we all are!

Are You Ready For Your Suddenly?


Luke 24:4

At this they were in great perplexity, when suddenly there stood by them two men whose raiment flashed like lightening..


In prayer and meditation in the last week the Lord has been talking to me about suddenly.


Suddenly means “at an instant.”


God spoke to my heart that there are those who have been praying for certain things for a long time. Some have been praying for years. People have wanted to give up, thinking to themselves that nothing is ever going to change and that their prayers are never going to be answered. A whole lot of people are at the point of wanting to give up. They know that the things they are praying for are not against God’s will and yet STILL nothing is happening. They wonder “Is God hearing my prayers? Why doesn’t He answer me?”


God is saying that this is a time of suddenly. In an instant you are going to see some things change before your eyes. It’s a season of reversals. Things that have been not moving are going to start to move.


I also see that things will happen suddenly with no time of preparation. Like the bridge that fell in Miami, it did so SUDDENLY. People were caught underneath it suddenly. There was no time to ask for forgiveness, to quit a bad habit, or to repent. It happened in an instant. At that time, for those involved, it was what it was. God is saying that we need to be ready to meet him at all times, because things can change suddenly. Are we ready to meet him at all times? We need to be because this is time of sudden changes.


God is going to restore health and wealth suddenly. He is going to turn the wealth of the wicked over to the Godly and it will happen so suddenly that you won’t be able to catch your breath.


Faithful givers, sacrificial givers, will have things given to them from places they never expected. Money will literally seem to appear from nowhere. God is going to not just give provision for your vision but give in abundance, you will have enough to bless others and take care of yourself and your family.


There are 87 occurrences of SUDDENLY in the Word of God.


Here are a few..

Matthew 8:24

But suddenly there arose a great storm on the Lake, so that the waves threatened to engulf the boat; but He was asleep.


Mathew 17:3

And suddenly Moses and Elijah appeared to them conversing with Him.


Mark 13:36 lest coming suddenly he might find you sleeping.


Luke 24:4

“So be careful, or your hearts will be loaded down with carousing, drunkenness, and cares of this life, and that day will come on you suddenly.

Suddenly things are going to change for you. I believe it with all my heart! God is getting ready to move things suddenly and nobody will be able to shut the door God is opening in front of you!



Are You Being Oppressed?

Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak!”

Matthew 26:41

For my first Christian mentor God sent me a woman named Nancy Kane. I was sitting in a women’s Aglow meeting in Visalia California where Nancy was the speaker. She was dynamic!

God spoke to my heart and said, “Ask Nancy to teach a bible study in your home.”

That was in 1977. People still had their phone numbers in the telephone book. I called her,out of the blue, and asked her to teach a bible study in my home. She agreed.

What I didn’t know at the time was that Nancy also had a deliverance ministry. She was so in tune to the Holy Spirit that she could meet someone and “read” their book immediately. She mentored me on deliverance. If there was a person who was a Christian, and constantly went back to something that was hindering their walk with Christ, she would say that they were oppressed by a certain little devil who had set up a home in their host and didn’t want to leave.

First let me say this; a Christian can not be possessed, only oppressed. When Satan knocks on the door of our hearts Jesus answers.

However if we continue to do something that causes us to backslide we have to wonder if we are being oppressed by a demon who doesn’t want to leave. The Bible says that the soul is willing but the flesh is weak.

What can we do. We first recognize that we have a problem resisting something on our own. It can be drugs, alcohol, pornography, over-eating, gossip or anger. There are more, but you get the drift of what I am saying.

Secondly we confess it, and ask God to restore us to a right relationship with him.

Thirdly we get one or two Christians, we trust, to lay hands on us and tell Satan to leave. We evict him and tell him to get out. There are times we don’t have anyone to pray with, or for, us. We can then do it ourselves after fasting and praying.

“The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” 1 Corinthians 10:13

Return of an Unclean Spirit

43 “When the unclean spirit has gone out of a person, it passes through waterless places seeking rest, but finds none. 44 Then it says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when it comes, it finds the house empty, swept, and put in order. 45 Then it goes and brings with it seven other spirits more evil than itself, and they enter and dwell there, and the last state of that person is worse than the first. So also will it be with this evil generation.”


The above scripture shows the fate of someone who, after prayer, continues in the same sin over and over. The demonic spirit comes back and now brings his friends. Now it’s even harder to break free from the oppressive spirit.

I know, from my own life, that when getting involved in something, or with someone, I should not be involved with it became harder each time to break free.

Prayerfully ask God if you are being oppressed. If there is something you cannot break free from on your own, then it’s a stronghold. It needs to go so that you can live a life led by the Spirit of God.

Don’t be afraid of these things. God has told us that we walk in the same anointing Jesus had when we are totally surrendered to God.

The best thing to do is find an alive for Jesus church. There you will find people mature in the things of the spirit.

We can walk totally free from hindering spirits! Recognize, tell it to go in the name of Jesus, repent and be restored!

When I was first saved, during the Jesus movement that started in Azusa Street in Los Angeles, people knew that. But over the years, in order to fill churches, pastors quit teaching it.

A few years ago a person called me who was constantly failing in their walk with God. This was a good Christian who simply wasn’t living victoriously. This person was in my age group and had been saved for years. The problem was that this Christian, like a lot of us, had literally forgotten about tearing down strongholds. When I reminded the person about this fasted and prayed with the person they were set free from the oppression.

“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”

John 10:10, KJV

“Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

James 4:7, KJV

You can walk free today, and stay free, by putting into practice these things I have written about.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

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Expect Great Miracles From God


Wait and hope for and expect the Lord; be brave and of good courage and let your heart be stout and enduring. Yes, wait for and hope for and expect the Lord. Psalm 27: 14


I think one of the most important lessons God has taught me in the past ten years is the importance of waiting on Him and praising His Name, no matter what the situation looks like in the “natural”


Along the way I read the story of a wealthy man of God who built orphanages for children. Many years ago a man named George Muller of Bristol, England was led by the Lord to build orphanages in England. Mr. Muller was a man of faith, who had a habit of asking God directly for whatever was needed rather then speaking of his need to other people.


Mr. Muller once said that the great fault of most of us is that we do not ask “big enough” and that we do not continue in prayer until it comes. He once said, “Expect great things of God and great things you will have!”


When the Israelites were in the desert they complained constantly. The same was true when they ran out of water. They didn’t go directly to God with their complaints; they went to straight to Moses. Moses then went to God. God first told Moses to strike a rock. Moses struck the rock with a rod and water came out.


The same thing happened again, and God told Moses to “SPEAK TO THE ROCK.” Moses expected it to be like the last time and took his rod and struck the Rock. But God had said “SPEAK TO THE ROCK.”


You hear a lot of Christians that tell their sad tale to others, hoping that others will feel sorry for them, and answer their prayers. They don’t go to God, they go to others. They are still thinking on a natural level. God works on a supernatural level.


God begin to tell me to not tell others about my needs and instead bring them directly to Him. That way I would know that it was God answering my prayers and not others.


I began a wonderful adventure of telling no one but God what my needs were and He began to supernaturally answer my prayers.


To this day I have health issues, financial issues, and other problems that people would be astonished to find out about. I take them to God, and praise Him for what I do have.


Since God taught me that important lesson, I have my needs met on a continual basis.


God sometimes uses others to bless us, but when that happens He speaks to them directly to bless us. He doesn’t need us to do it.


The secret is to praise God for what we do have, and then we will be increased. God will never give us more until we can praise Him for what we have. Then being increased is a test, once we are increased financially do we help others without being asked? I have two ministries that I support on a regular basis. I do so because those two ministries have taught the truth, and continue to do so. They don’t water down the message to make others “happy.” They speak the truth as God has revealed it to them.


Today, people want a happy, fuzzy soft gospel. God forbid we should tell anyone that they have to follow any rules. As a person who spent years in the false religion of “New Age,” I often see no difference in Christians and the New Ager’s who believe we are all part of the same the drops of water in the ocean, and we are all going to heaven.


Praise God continually, the bible says, “Your praise shall continuously be on my lips”. Take things to Him directly, confident that He always answers prayers in line with His will. Pray through, and don’t stop praying until your prayers are answers, even if it takes 10 years. When God does answer your prayer it will be in His perfect timing and the resulting blessing will fit you perfectly!


In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie King Miller


Going through unbelievably hard times and bad situations. I have found myself there more then once. The Lord is never closer to us then when we are in a dark night of the soul experience. During those times he molds us and grows us into maturity as Christians.


The following book, now available for only $2.99 on Kindle Ebooks was written to encourage you to keep on keeping on. God feed me with practical advice which I have included in this book. Learn to thrive during chaos. Lead Me To The Rock: Trusting God During The Hardest Times In Our Lives





My Friend Kim Died Monday

My friend Kim Miera died Monday. Since that time I have been wracking my brain trying to think if there was something I missed. It wasn’t easy to find an answer. The morning before she died she was still spreading encouragement, on FB, to everyone. I have been replaying every conversation. The only thing that stood out to me was an instant messenger conversation from one week before her death, to the day. She said, “ I haven’t felt well. I have had a couple of bad days.” We briefly spoke about that and a new medication her doc had put her on for her Fibromyalgia. Her pain was bad. Then before we could dwell on that too much she immediately asked about downloading the free books I wanted her to have.

I met Kim because one of our mutual friends shared one of my posts. She saw it and friended me. Then she sent me an IM asking if I was a Christian counselor. I said “yes,” and gave her my phone number. I talked to her about thirty minutes before I told her, “You don’t need counseling.” I told her she was being too hard on herself. She had fibromyalgia which really makes a person tired and weak. We spoke a bit longer. I understood her well because our earlier lives were so much alike. I understood that she was in a prior relationship, as I am, a survivor of horrific domestic violence.

Like me, Kim never gave up. I noticed she was always getting involved in different ways to make extra money. She was close to getting a small business loan for a business here in town. A little birdie told me the same day she died, later in the day, they called and she had gotten that loan. Kim was a very smart woman. I am heartbroken she didn’t live to have her dream come true.

Kim trusted me, like you would an older sister. She seemed to know God sent me to mentor her, and she was teachable. She sent people my way to help with counseling. She was very mature in her faith. The day I had my own, “dark night of the soul experience,” she was the person I called for encouragement.

I came to the conclusion yesterday that Kim was feeling worse then I realized. Prior domestic violence victims have a high threshold for pain. We have been through so much in the past that we tend to put a good face on and take care of everyone else. That’s what we do. Was that it I wondered? Did I miss the signs. Even if I did, what could I have done?

Her passing has made it all too clear to me that tomorrow is not promised to any of us. When our time comes it comes.

We don’t always have answers. I cannot stand the sadness that overcomes me when I think of her leaving her husband, children and grandchildren way to soon!

At this point in my walk with God I trust him completely. If I didn’t have blind trust in him, all the questions I have would be too much for me to bear. I do know she is with Him now, pain free.

We have preconceived notions about life. We think that the older ones should go first. We never like to see anybody die, but especially not someone younger then us! I know people who are older and sicker. Unfortunately their deaths are somewhat expected, without a miracle.

So, I am back to square one. Why did Daddy God take Kim so early? I guess it’s like when you were a child and asked a parent, “Why?” The parent says, “I know you don’t understand now, but someday you will.” I look forward to that day.

1 Corinthians 13:12 Amplified Bible, Classic Edition (AMPC)

12 For now we are looking in a mirror that gives only a dim (blurred) reflection [of reality as [a]in a riddle or enigma], but then [when perfection comes] we shall see in reality and face to face! Now I know in part (imperfectly), but then I shall know and understand [b]fully and clearly, even in the same manner as I have been [c]fully and clearly known and understood [[d]by God].

Love Addiction Help For Christians



“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5


The following is an excerpt from my new E book, “Love Addiction Help For Christians.” You can see it by going to Amazon and putting my name; “Cathie King-Miller” in the search line.  As a recovered Love Addict I poured out my heart in this book. I have researched Love Addiction for the last ten years. I have counseled Love Addicts and Avoidance Addicts. This book is the result. You can break free. God has a plan for your life and it is my sincere desire that after reading and applying the advice in this book you can not only survive Love Addiction but have the knowledge to find your God given soul mate.

If you have ever been in a relationship where you were treated poorly, cheated on, and verbally  abused, but couldn’t break free,  this book is God ordained for you….


Tony’s Story…names and places have been changed to protect the clients privacy.


Tony fell in love with Louise in high school. From the moment he saw her she was the only girl for him. He was obsessed with her. Her bubbly personality, blonde hair and blue eyes were nothing like his dark looks and shy demeanor.


They both attended the First Baptist church in the small town they grew up in. Tony was born into a Christian family and by the time he was 13 years old he went forward and accepted Jesus Christ as his savior. Louise’s story was almost identical to Tony’s.


It was understood that they would get married the summer after high school graduation. They had a simple, but lovely, wedding. They next month they loaded his old Ford truck and headed for the state college where Tony would evidentially earn an engineering degree.


Tony graduated and immediately received several job offers. He finally took a job for a well-known oil company. Tony and Louise were excited about moving to a large town in the Midwest. With a nice salary Tony was able to buy a wonderful starter home for them. Soon they had two beautiful children and by that time he had received a couple of promotions. They bought their dream home and stayed busy with two children going to their games and participating in their activities.


They were well established in a nice bible-believing church.


Louise started going back to school to get her degree. The children soon graduated from high school and Louise started to work as a teacher.


Their life had been full and busy and there was no time to be bored. However, now with the kids away from home and Louise working, Tony began to experience a bit of depression and an extreme boredom with life. He spent a lot of time sitting on the patio and contemplating what he might have missed in life.


A new guy, Mario, was working with him and he was also in his early fifties. He had a flashy sports car and was always seen with a lot of gorgeous and younger women at the company parties. One afternoon as they were leaving work the new guy asked Tony to go get a drink with him. Tony wasn’t much of a drinker but he figured, “Why, not?”


The two men had a couple of beers and then Mario said, “Let’s get out of here. Want to go see some gorgeous women at the strip club?”


Tony felt excited and guilty at the same time. He was afraid to look like a goody-goody to Mario and so for the first time in his life he went to a strip club. He felt guilty, at first, but he was soon spending more and more time there.


He met a pretty stripper named Monica who lavished attention on Tony. Monica knew men, she could see that Tony had money and she was willing to do what she had to do to get some of it.


Inexperienced Tony was flattered by her attention. For the first time in a long time he felt happy and young again. He started to think about what it would be like to have Monica to himself away from the strip club. So Tony asked Monica out.


He started telling Louise he had a working weekend every now and then. Louise had no reason to distrust Tony and so she never gave it a second thought.


Monica was going to nice places. Tony was spending big money on her and he was totally addicted to her and the sex. He could not stop thinking about it. Monica opened up experiences to him that he had never had, sexually, before.


One evening he went to pick up Monica and she surprised him with the news she was pregnant.


He was too far into love addiction to get upset over the pregnancy


He mind was foggy. Thinking about how this was going to hurt Louise never even worried him. He went home, told her he was in love with another woman and packed a suitcase and left.


The day his divorce was final they flew to Las Vegas, Nevada and got married.


Monica, knowing the Tony would do anything for her began to use him immediately. He bought her an expensive car. Soon after he bought a million dollar home on several acres. It came complete with a swimming pool, horse stables and a guesthouse.


The baby was born and Tony was proudly showing him off to his buddies. He felt like a young stud as he saw looks of envy on the faces of his old friends.


Then, within a year, Tony noticed Monica pulling away from him a bit. To keep her happy he bought her anything she wanted. Tony had always been a saver. He had planned well for his future, but now between payments of alimony to Louise and buying expensive furniture, horses and trinkets to keep Monica with him, he was beginning to worry about finances for the first time since he graduated from college.


The end started for Tony when he arrived home early from a business trip to find Monica in bed with their pool boy. She convinced him she was sorry and it would never happen again. However, it did happen again and again until she fell in love with another man with even more money. She kicked Tony out of the house, got a high-powered divorce lawyer and took him to the cleaners financially and emotionally.


By the time Tony came for love addiction counseling he was truly a broken man. He had lost the love of his life, his first wife, his children had turned against him, and he had another child he would have to financially support well into his seventies.


Love addiction, like any other addiction, had destroyed Tony’s life. He backslid terribly and he was embarrassed to show his face at the church he and Louise had attended for years.


He was at rock bottom and living in an efficiency apartment.


Love addiction had taken a toll on his mind; he was overcome with guilt and depressed to the point of suicide. Through a lot of confession and repenting before the Lord, and several years of counseling, he was restored to fellowship with God. His relationship with his first family was never to be the same. Everyday was a constant battle to overcoming bitterness and regret.


The Avoidance Addict that Tony was involved in was very skilled at picking up weaknesses with men. She played him and destroyed him and in his mind, she won.


When God Has Us In A Holding Pattern

Be still in the presence of the Lord,
and wait patiently for him to act.
Don’t worry about evil people who prosper
or fret about their wicked schemes. Psalm 37:7

It appears that God has me in a holding pattern. It’s as if I am on a plane, willing and able to get onto my next destination and God has come on the overhead speaker saying, “We are experiencing some unexpected difficulties and we cannot take off at this time. It is nothing to worry about, I will keep you posted.”

It actually started last month, shortly after publishing my Kindle Books the Lord spoke to my heart the following, “Stop and pray before ministering in any way. Don’t do anything without praying to see if it is in my will.”

I am at an age where it might make sense to retire but that is not who I am and God knows it. I love being about the Lords work. It actually energizes me. That’s how you know you are on your right path with God. When you love what you do so much that it doesn’t feel like work, you have found your ministry.

God has me in this holding pattern. I am anxious to get on with it but God’s not having it for some reason.

I know this about holding patterns, because I have experienced them before, if I try and go forward on my own, before God releases me, anything I do on my own will fail.

In trying to understand these holding patterns I have learned there are many examples of them in the Bible. You too might be there. You feel as if you are between a rock and a hard place.

In Exodus 14 we read that the Israelites were in between a rock and a hard place. Pharaoh had changed his mind about letting them go free. They had gone as far as they could go. The Red Sea was in front of them and Pharaoh was in back of them. They couldn’t go back nor could they go forward. It was then that God told them to “Be still and see the salvation of the Lord.”

God, when the time was right created the huge miracle of parting the Red Sea so that the Israelites could go to the Promised Land. At the same time He closed the Red Sea to The Egyptians who Pharaoh had sent to bring them back into bondage.

The key is that when the time was EXACTLY right God delivered them. God will do the same for me and you.

It’s in these holding patterns that we learn to trust God. We grow and mature in the Lord so when we finally do take off we are equipped with the things we need inside of us to be of use in the next stage of life.

Have we got the “right stuff” to hang in and wait on God or will we rush ahead more then likely unprepared for what lies ahead?

In His Unconditional Love,
Cathie Miller