It Hurts But I Am Closer To Acceptance

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Can we talk? At first I wasn’t going to publish this. It shows my feelings are raw. I am usually the encouragement person. But then I prayed and felt led to share it anyway. We all are trying to be perfect. We know we don’t have to be, but we try. But the truth is we are human, in suits of flesh. We need each other. So I am publishing this. We are all pilgrims in this place longing for our home in heaven where God will wipe away each tear. So I am sharing this as I feel impressed by God that many can relate!

 

It hurts But I Am Closer To Acceptance

We are too hard on ourselves. When we have bad relationships with people we should either ignore it or change it. If it’s someone that is constantly uncaring, hurtful and rude it might be best to leave those people alone as much as possible. But what if it’s family? Someone you have to spend certain times with because of your spouse? It’s best to get along, in those situations, because of keeping family peace.

I have always been a “why” person. It’s who I am. I like a challenge. Because of that I will analyze a situation and make it better if I see area’s in which I might need to change.

So I looked at a certain situation and recognized area’s I needed to grow and change in. I prayed about it and I changed. I was sick of being a couple of folks emotional scapegoat. Everything I did was wrong, I was conspiring constantly to make their life miserable, according to them. I could say so much more but some of you will understand. 

I changed, I quit getting involved with anything that was none of my business. I was kind and I was understanding and went out of my way to please them.

And you know what? Nothing changed. Nothing changed because these people had made me the wicked witch of the Southwest and they were used to me being the excuse for a bad relationship with another family member. They thought “we win,” and we aren’t going to change.”

Lesson learned. Sometimes we need to change our behavior around certain people. When, with the help of God, we do change and we are still ignored, used and emotionally abused it’s time to realize it is what it is and again set boundaries.

I am thankful for God’s Unconditional Love that continues to remind me that I too am loved.

 My life is pretty hard. Because of my husband’s physical condition I have to take care of him and everything else by myself. He was in the hospital for 3 months and had seven operations. We lost everything we had because of our medical bills, even with insurance. It’s a challenge to put food on the table and vacations, buying gifts, well we just don’t have the money. We drive a sixteen year old car. We moved from our first rental here into a lease-to-own. We were thrilled thinking we would never have to move again. Then, the landlord decided he didn’t want to do a  lease to own, he wanted the money immediately and we didn’t have it. So we had to move and we had to borrow money from two different loan companies, my daughter and two sweet friends to do it. I pray daily for a way to buy a home. I am working hard to repair our credit scores to do so. In the meantime I thank God to just have a roof over my head. I want to move closer to friends and  some family in the Rio Rancho NM area, but I am stuck. These are folks who would be there the minute I called. So I trust God. When the time comes He will open doors for us.

Looking at a picture recently, of me at 20, I would never have imagined this would be my life in old age. It is what it is.

God gets us through each day with miracles only Chuck and I are aware of them. I build others up in faith because it also builds me up. I love Daddy God because he has said “I am with you always, never will I leave you or forsake you.”

If you think that any of us could get through our problems alone, without the faithfulness of God you are wrong. I am so blessed to be his daughter. But I have been too hard on myself at times. I don’t always need to repair all the cracks in my pot, so that those in my family might treat me better, those cracks are where HIS light shines through. Amen? I know so many of my readers can relate. Satan and those he uses tried to break us…

It didn’t work! Ha ha devil!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

@belovedhandmdn1@aol.com

 

 

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For Those Who Are Sad On Mother’s Day

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Mother’s Day is a tribute to the one woman who has loved us unconditionally since we breathed our first breaths.

For those who have, like me, lost their moms way too soon in their lives it’s a pain like no other. I can remember going to a church service a year or so after losing my mother. It was Mother’s Day and several of my friends were there with their mothers. An emotional pain, unlike anything I had ever felt before in my life, gripped me and I had to leave. I couldn’t get out of there fast enough. It wasn’t jealousy, it was a feeling of anger, and resentment. I couldn’t understand why I had to be left without my dearest friend and closest confidant. It took me years to be okay with God about that. It wasn’t until I was sane enough to understand that God had a calling on my life and it was Satan who tried to destroy me through taking my mom way too soon!

Now, at my age a lot of my friends are losing their parents. I was saying to someone recently how I think it was easier, looking back, to lose my parents at a young age. So many of my peers are not feeling well themselves and yet now they have the added pain of losing a parent. Truthfully, no matter how old you are losing a parent is like losing a part of you that you can never get back.  

Some people are estranged from their mothers. I cannot understand that because I cannot imagine ever being mad enough at my parent to never want them in my life again.

Unless you were sexually abused, emotionally battered or almost killed by your estranged mother you need to get over it and repair your relationship! Don’t hold grudges! Life is too short! You can never find anyone who will love you, on this earth, like a mom! Do the right thing and call her. 

I pray for those of you who lost your mother recently to find peace, the peace of God, to get you through tomorrow. It’s okay to feel sad. It’s understandable. But God will give you a strength you never knew you had to get you through the day! I know He will because he gave it to me and he still does!

Shalom,

Cathie

Coffee With Cathie 05/12/2018

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You can not turn an apple into a peach and you wouldn’t want to. An apple appeals more to some and visa versa. Each one of us was chosen, by God, to reach certain people. The apostles ,and known followers of Jesus,had diverse backgrounds. I think Paul’s background, as a dreaded tax collector, prepared him for working with hostile people. 

This past week with the Lord, for me, has been both mystical and educational.

More and more the gifts he gave us are coming to the forefront and accelerating. 

It’s important to remember that we all have our place in the body. If we try to operate in someone else’s anointing, that we admire, it won’t work. As an example I might want to preach, but unfortunately that’s not my anointing. God has anointed me for working with people one on one. If I decided to preach it wouldn’t succeed. I would be out of my anointing and it would show!

Sometimes, God shows me clearly what it going on with someone and the outcome of it. I then have to use extra discernment because some people can handle the truth and others cannot. Usually I file it in my mind unless they ASK for advice.

Whatever your anointing is God is going to start using you in ever greater ways. Quickly and to the point. Time is short. There is no time to beat around the bush. 

You will not resonate with everyone but God knows who you will resonate with and puts them in your path. Sometimes I will write something and only one person will comment on it, especially on my blog where I have a larger audience. God tells me that it’s okay. It may have been that one person needed that word. 

“1 Corinthians 12:12-27 New International Reader’s Version (NIRV)

One Body but Many Parts

12 There is one body, but it has many parts. But all its many parts make up one body. It is the same with Christ. 13 We were all baptized by one Holy Spirit. And so we are formed into one body. It didn’t matter whether we were Jews or Gentiles, slaves or free people. We were all given the same Spirit to drink. 14 So the body is not made up of just one part. It has many parts.

15 Suppose the foot says, “I am not a hand. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. 16 And suppose the ear says, “I am not an eye. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, how could it hear? If the whole body were an ear, how could it smell? 18 God has placed each part in the body just as he wanted it to be. 19 If all the parts were the same, how could there be a body? 20 As it is, there are many parts. But there is only one body.

21 The eye can’t say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 In fact, it is just the opposite. The parts of the body that seem to be weaker are the ones we can’t do without. 23 The parts that we think are less important we treat with special honor. The private parts aren’t shown. But they are treated with special care. 24 The parts that can be shown don’t need special care. But God has put together all the parts of the body. And he has given more honor to the parts that didn’t have any. 25 In that way, the parts of the body will not take sides. All of them will take care of one another. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it. If one part is honored, every part shares in its joy.

27 You are the body of Christ. Each one of you is a part of it.”

Have a blessed day in the Lord beloved!

Cathie 

Coffee With Cathie 05/11/2018

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This morning this scripture came to my mind

“My sheep know my voice and I know them” John 10:27

As I meditated on that a picture came to my mind of one of my children, when they were young and got hurt outside playing, calling my name.

Like any other parent I knew which one of my children that was. I never hesitated, I went running to help.

God knows my voice and he knows your voice and all we have to do is call his name and He stops everything and he comes running.

He knows his kids voices and we know His. Whether you are far away or near to Him, He’s standing and he’s calling to you, individually, he is wanting you, specifically to hear his voice and come running!

A Word From God 5/9/18

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“You know the truth  but you are in denial. As you decide to close a door I will suddenly open another one in front of you. The truth is there, face it and go forward with your life. You are embarrassed to have made a mistake. In the future you must come to me in prayer when you need to make a decision that will greatly affect your life. Do not be embarrassed. You would be surprised at the number of people who have seen these things too but are currently keeping their mouths closed about it.”

Jeremiah 29:11-13 New International Version

11 For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

Your Answer Is On It’s Way!

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For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
 neither are your ways my ways, declares the LORD. Isaiah 55:8

 

When your answer to your prayers comes it may come quickly and in a different way then you had ever imagined. You must accept that and not resist it, even though it didn’t come in the way you imagined it would.

 

A woman I know had a job for fifteen years that she absolutely hated. Nevertheless, she was making a nice amount of money and felt like she was stuck. She prayed and prayed for God to open the door to a new opportunity that paid her as well, if not more then she was making at her current position.

 

One day, because of the company having to cut back, she lost her job through being laid off. She called me, devastated and in tears. Immediately I said to her, “But you have been praying for over a year to get another job. Maybe this is God’s way of getting you to finally look for something else.” Believe it or not, even in this economy, she found another job within three weeks of being laid off and this new job will pay her much more then what she was making at the old one.

 

We all have ways that we think God is going to perform our miracle. We get our minds fixed on God doing something one way and one way only. A lot of times we don’t move forward because of fear of the unknown. God is aware of that, and knows that He needs to create circumstances to move us forward, or we will stay stuck in a situation that is less then perfect for a long time.

 

I had prayed for a way to get away from my abusive ex-husband for years. He was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive to me. Because I am an orphan and an only child there was actually no “human” help for me, in getting my own place and getting away from him. I lived with him as a roommate for a long time, and seeing his constant “running around” with women, and his total disregard for my feelings caused a great deal of emotional turmoil in my life. I was, however, stuck. I prayed and prayed for a financial miracle.

 

I have talked before about the day his married mistress showed up at my door, that was a very painful situation, but it allowed me to move out of the home when she convinced my ex husband to give me a check to do so. Overnight, I was free and had a way out of the situation. It didn’t happen like I thought or hoped it would, it was painful, but God moved me out.

 

Some of you are probably one hour, one day, one month away from your miracle, but when it happens it may not be in the way you expected it. God will move though, and when He does it may be in a totally different way then you wanted it to be. I tell you this, except your freedom, from the bondage of your problem, with thanksgiving, as God’s ways are perfect.

 

When you start praying for your miracle, things may temporarily seem to get worse. Things may get stirred up a bit. Before the children of Israel were released from their bondage they went through a total of nine plaques. During this time Moses was asking Pharaoh for their release. Pharaoh tried to compromise with Moses. He said he would allow the children of Israel to go out into the wilderness to sacrifice to their God, but they must return to Egypt. Moses refused to compromise. Finally, the Israelites gained their freedom from Egypt and left for the Promised Land, without having to compromise.

 

If we accept compromise we will remain in bondage to our situations. Like Moses we may have to say “no” to compromising many times. When we refuse to settle for compromising, then complete freedom comes.

 

Often, I think, we are like the Hebrews who did not appreciate Moses when he tried to rescue them. I often give guidance to a person, through the discernment of the Lord, that they refuse to accept. People want their answers, “their way.” Sometimes people are not willing to make the effort to gain freedom from bondage. I totally understand that. I can assure you, as in my own case, God will change your situation overnight, when He wants it changed.

 

There are always ways out of our difficulties and if we refuse to take a different route in our stubbornness, God will still deliver us. If it at first seems fearful don’t despair of your situation. Think back about your prayers. God doesn’t forget them; even if at times He seems a bit slow to us in these suits of flesh. What we may perceive to be a problem, at first, just may be God’s answer in a different way then we expected it!

 

Father, You always answer our prayers. You show us ways out our “messes”, and even if we rebel, You still answer our prayers in Your own timing and Your own way. Help us today to accept that, and look for the good that is often hidden in bad situations. In Your Name, the Name above all names we pray. Amen and Amen,

A Word From God 05/08/18

“I need a people that live righteously in these last days. As much as you can, come away from the things of the world. When you walk into the places the world hangs out you literally “breathe in evil.” Those words, those pictures, those things that tempt you are downloaded into your mind. They give a foothold to the enemy.

 

Stay in places where you breathe in my Spirit. These are the places where you find peace, and serenity. In the secret places with me, you receive strength for the battle ahead.”

 

Finally, brothers, good-by. Aim for perfection, listen to my appeal, be of one mind, and live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11

Another Word From God 05/06/2018

“I know you have a tendency to “mess up.” I do, however, know that you always have the best intentions.

I know how much you can take, and I know the places in which you are a bit weak. You are a work of my own hands. Like the potter knows the strengths and weaknesses in the pot he designs, so I know the strengths and weaknesses in you.

I made everyone different sizes, with different personalities, to be used for My work in different and diverse places. Just, again, as a potter makes his pots for different uses.

You, my vessel, are sitting on the table I designed for you to be placed on at this particular time. Just because you don’t sit in the china cabinet doesn’t mean you aren’t special to me. Relax; you are sitting exactly where I want you to be sitting at this moment. Soon, you will know why I have placed you in this position. Until then, simply be willing to be used right where you are!”

“My people shall dwell in a peaceable habitation, in safe dwellings, and in quiet resting-places.” Isaiah 32: 18

A Word From God 05/06/2018

“I hear your prayers for your loved one. I know you are getting weary waiting for a change to be seen or heard regarding this situation.

I have a very specific timetable. There are things that need to occur before you see a positive solution.

I never act in haste, when I arrange a change it is a permanent one.

Total surrender only occurs when every other avenue of resistance to it has been closed.

Why would I give my children half a miracle? I will not allow anything or anyone to come to you that would hurt you again. So be still and be patient. When your prayer is answered, in this regard, it will be answered PERFECTLY.”

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD.” Isaiah 55:8

Adultery, Fornication and The Christian

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Recently a friend of mine called and wanted to know how to handle a Christian friend who is having a relationship with a married man. The woman has told her that she knows what she is doing is wrong and yet she keeps getting pulled back into it.

 

Well, duh? I have said it before and I will say it again…Satan never brings anything unattractive to tempt us with. But these things can be avoided if we are not going to the wrong places and doing the wrong thing when we get there.

 

Sin feels good, looks good and tastes good. As someone who constantly has to watch my overindulgence in sweets I can tell you that Satan never shows me a big plate of liver to tempt me with. He knows that doesn’t work, so it’s usually a nice piece of some kind of cake that smells good and looks good. If I sit there and look at it long enough I can convince myself that “a little bit of sugar won’t hurt me.” But, in my case it will.

 

My friend wanted a scripture verse that would convince the other woman that if she continued on in this affair she would surely lose her salvation. The following scripture is the one I found that seemed to fit the bill;

 

If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, 27but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. Hebrews 10:26-27

 

Now remember God forgives any sin. Even at the last minute. The thief on the cross is a perfect example. I have known a lot of folks in my life who seem to think, “I can go on with this sin, and I will just confess it on my deathbed.” Well, that’s all fine and good but we don’t plan our deaths. Sometimes a car comes into our lane and hits us full force and we are killed instantly. No time for forgiveness, in this case, and we are on our way to hell.

 

When we play with sin, we play with fire. We have to walk away from it, as hard as it is and go in the direction God wants us to go in. When we go in that direction, God will evidentially make it all worthwhile for us.

 

If someone we know comes to us with a confession of some kind of sin that we know is against the will of God, it becomes our duty to tell the truth to them about how God feels about it. It’s not easy; because we worry about losing the friendship of someone we may care deeply about. It is still our responsibility to tell them what the Word says.

 

I then believe we cannot continue to listen to their “stories” of woe, if they are not willing to repent and turn away from the sin. We must tell them “I love you, but what you are doing is wrong. I will continue to pray for you, but I can’t stand by and watch you destroy your salvation, anymore.”

 

 

 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller