Dysfunctional Due To Divorce

One of the things about being an elder is that we have seen things, both good and bad. We have done things, both good and bad, and so hopefully we have learned better and we mentor others to do better.

I was watching the Bush family and their togetherness. It’s admirable.

I know that there are situations that were, and are, hard and sometimes people have no choice but to make a change.

I truly believe, having unfortunately been there, that divorce causes so much dysfunction and remarriages do too.

You have children who don’t like stepparents. It is painful on so many levels, women who are jealous of step mothers, fathers who are jealous of step fathers, children and even adult children, who play one set against the other.

Look around you and maybe in your own life, or some family member, you see constant chaos and dysfunction caused as a result of having to try to get along with people you never asked to have in your life to begin with.

Praying about this today I feel God directing me to encourage those I mentor to try and work things out in your marriages. If you have been through a divorce try your best to be kind to all involved. Don’t badmouth your ex or the new spouse. Try to show love and respect in order to put a stop to a lot of the dysfunction caused by divorce and remarriage.

Most importantly we can avoid all of this by having strong marriages. When we aren’t living for God there is no way we can stay happily married. First of all, if we are single, we should not even date unbelievers. Why? Because we walk into Satan’s territory.

Just my humble opinion, after learning the hard way. I pray none of you will have to suffer through the chaos of divorce!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

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Being Faithful With What You Have

Your level of blessing is all equal to your stewardship. What you do with what you have determines what more God will give you.

When I was a young mom with four kids I was praying for a bigger house as we had outgrown the little house we were living in.

One day as I was seeking the Lord, while my kids were napping, I cried out to the Lord as to why nothing was moving forward in regards to us being able to get a new house.

As clear as a bell, in my head, the Lord spoke to me, “ My dear daughter look around you. Your home is a mess. If you cannot take care of this house, you are not ready for a bigger one.” I looked around and it was true. I was a stay at home mom at that time. I had no excuse at the time. It was 2 o’clock in the afternoon and dirty dishes were still in my sink.

I got my act together and started taking better care of my house. A year later my husband got a huge raise and we moved to a beautiful, larger home.

Take care of what you have been given by God before you ask for more.

Jesus – “Unless you are faithful in small matters, you won’t be faithful in large ones. If you cheat even a little, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities. And if you are untrustworthy about worldly wealth, who will trust you with the true riches of heaven. And if you are not faithful with other people’s money, why should you be trusted with money of your own? No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other, or be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” (Luke 16:10-13 )

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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The Truth About Counseling

This may offend some so I apologize in advance. If your therapy is working for you by all means continue.

Ten years ago I began to question the Lord about why so many people would tell me they wanted Christian counseling who were already seeking counsel with a secular counselor and we’re not getting better.

God used the woman at the well to show me the counseling method he wanted me to use. He spoke to me about the woman at the well. He said, “In secular counsel you delve in a person’s childhood. Bringing up all the hurt does more harm then good. When I saw the woman at the well I didn’t do an intake. I didn’t tell her she was a relationship addict due to her childhood. Even if true it didn’t matter because she was in desperate need of something to satisfy the hole in her soul that was being filled with anything to make the loneliness go away for a time. No. I told her exactly what I discerned. I told her she had been with 5 men and wasn’t married to the man she was currently living with. I told her what was wrong and then I told her what she really needed was to drink from everlasting water.” Jesus continued, “I cut to the chase, told her what she needed and she got it. She then went and told people, “Come and meet a man who told me everything I ever did!” I want you to discern the problem through prayer, tell the person what the problem is and then what to do about it.”

So that’s what I do. Granted I could make more money by dragging things out and making clients dependent upon me. As a matter of fact very few people pay me at all. Jesus wants us healed and whole so that we can help others.

Dwelling on events from our past is depressing and at the end of the day we have to accept the past, because it cannot change, and come to peace with it. Blaming our parents, even if they deserve it, is a way of putting our pain on someone else that was probably messed up by their parents too.

Accept,forgive, move on in peace.

Do all Christian Counselor counsel the same? No. I used the model Christ gave me and I have had so many people set free that are now living depression free. Not because of who I am but because of who HE is.

The past cannot be changed but the future can be whatever we want it to be.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

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Even Jesus Was Rejected

So often we suffer rejection of our message about Jesus from our own families.

Even Jesus was not listened to by his own people, yet we cannot understand, often, the rejection of our message by some of those in our own families.

To quote from the Bible, ‘Now Jesus himself had pointed out that a prophet has no honour in his own country’ (John 4:44). Christ also said ‘no prophet is accepted in his home town’ (Luke 4:16-30), and ‘Only in his home town and in his own house is a prophet without honor”

Philip found Nathanael and said to him, “We have found him of whom Moses in the Torah and also the prophets wrote, Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” Nathanael said to him, “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?”

Mark 6:11

And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear you, when ye depart thence, shake off the dust under your feet for a testimony against them. Verily I say unto you, It shall be more tolerable for Sodom and Gomorrha in the day of judgment, than for that city.

Cheer up believers. Even Jesus suffered rejection by those closest to Him.

In God’s Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Our Greed

A lady from one of my craft groups just put a picture up of her living room. She had 4 Christmas trees decorating her living room and asked people if they thought it was too much.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t know the woman and she seems very nice, I am sure she was just showing her decorating skills.

However, I looked at that and immediately the thought came to my mind, “It definitely is too much! Have you seen the pictures online and on television of the people that have lost everything in Paradise California?”

We are basically greedy people. Self-centered and uncaring. This might not be the year to brag about your decorations and four Christmas trees.

Jeremiah 10:1-5 says the following, “Hear the word which the LORD speaks to you, O house of Israel. Thus says the LORD: Do not learn the way of the Gentiles; do not be dismayed at the signs of heaven, for the Gentiles are dismayed at them. For the customs of the peoples are futile; for one cuts a tree from the forest, the work of the hands of the workman, with the ax. They decorate it with silver and gold; they fasten it with nails and hammers so that it will not topple. They are upright, like a palm tree, and they cannot speak; they must be carried, because they cannot go by themselves. Do not be afraid of them, for they cannot do evil, nor can they do any good.”

The first time I read this I assumed it was about Christmas trees. Further reading and study revealed that it was about carving idols to worship. Still, as beautiful as they are, they really aren’t what Christmas is all about.

Losing everything is very traumatic. The mind cannot deal with it and people often feel numb. We must learn compassion because any of us could be next.

Father, wake us up to our greed and lack of compassion. Give us a heart of love and a way to help others. Amen.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

A Warning Dream?

My absolute favorite worship song is “Way Maker” I had the most wonderful encounter with the Holy Spirit last night in a way I had not experienced before. I kept waking up off and on last night, tossing and turning, as I would wake, each time, I heard the sound of angels singing Way Maker. That is one of the most anointed worship songs I have ever heard and God was literally soaking me in it all night long!

God is up to something! I feel a great revival is coming but prior to that something is going to happen that will literally rock our world. Stay close to God and never fear because he surrounds His children with angels!

Last week I dreamed that I was hearing hail falling on the roof. It started to get louder and louder. I opened the door and saw huge rocks, even boulders, falling everywhere. In the dream I heard God say, “Close the door and stay inside!” I closed the door and as I did I felt the earth tremble and shake back and forth. I awoke in a cold sweat! It was one of those dreams where you are so glad when you awake and realize it was only a dream.

I have not received, to date, an interpretation of the dream. I do know it may not have been an actual earthquake but perhaps a warning that something is coming that will literally rock our foundation. I will wait on the Lord. As I said the other day…Stay alert.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Stay Alert

God is still, as of this morning, surrounding me with the following scripture, “The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord!” Job 1:21.

We see things going in one way on the world scene but we serve a sovereign God whose ways we cannot always discern before He reveals them.

Stay alert and watch. Read the following scriptures with discernment. I will not make any prophetic announcement because that’s not my strong gifting but I will say that things on the National scene could become shocking before this year is over.

New International Version

“Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save.” Psalm 146:3

Psalm 118:8-9 New International Version (NIV)

8 It is better to take refuge in the Lord

than to trust in humans.

9 It is better to take refuge in the Lord

than to trust in princes.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Living Through Unimaginable Sorrow

Turning against God, when something hurtful happens, is for some understandable. We have all had times when we suffered pain and felt as if God let us down. It was during one of those times in my life where I reached a crossroad with God. I knew I could go down a road without Him or I could decide to trust Him and go on down the road with Him. I fell to my knees and told Him, “I don’t know why you have allowed this but nevertheless you are the only one who truly loves me, unconditionally, and whether you never answer another prayer I pray again, I am going on with you!”

I remember this quote from the movie, “The Shack,” when I need to, I take it out of my bible and read it. It puts everything in perspective for me. God spoke the following…

“Just because I work incredible good out of unspeakable tragedies doesn’t mean I orchestrate the tragedies. Don’t ever assume that my using something means I caused it or that I need it to accomplish my purposes. That will only lead you to false notions about me. Grace doesn’t depend on suffering to exist, but where there is suffering you will find grace in many facets and colors.”

― William P. Young, The Shack

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Guarding Our Hearts

When we spend time with someone regularly we become like them. The intimacy we have with God daily leads us to the same kind of discernment Jesus used when dealing with people. We then have, “The mind of Christ.” Using His discernment we can deal with others the way Jesus did by observing how He dealt with people. Jesus was not afraid to call things out if need be. There is a time to be quiet, beloved, and a time to confront in love.

When I was being taught, by God, how to renew my mind, it was so mind blowing to see the following scripture; John 2:23-24

23 While Jesus was in Jerusalem at the Passover festival, many people believed in him because they saw the miracles that he performed. 24 But Jesus didn’t trust them because he knew human nature. No one needed to tell him what mankind is really like.

So Jesus knew, and we should too, that we have to use discernment when dealing with people because not everyone we come across is who they “appear” to be. Not everyone who told Jesus how wonderful his miracles were really loved Jesus. They loved the miracles but not all loved the miracle maker, God, and Jesus knew that.

In our own lives there are some people who might love what we do for them, but not us. They will use us and then abuse us when they can no longer use us.

I have found that people who have low esteem from years of abuse too easily seek approval of others. Certain users and abusers notice that in us and use it to their advantage. They can show a lot of love and approval but then, in order to get their way, they can refuse to give love and approval. It’s like a drug dealer feeds a junkie drugs and then when they see the person is hooked, they withdraw the drug availability and a junkie will then pay anything to get the drug they crave.

Discerning motives is the part of the mind of Christ, in us, that protects our boundaries.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

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The False Prophets

I want to preface this by saying this is not about anyone I follow. I only follow people that have proven track records. So please do not think I am speaking of any of you!

One of the ways God uses me is to speak the truth and expose darkness. Because of that, speaking out of the truth, I take a lot of abuse. I have developed a thick skin. The only opinion of me that is important to me is that of God.

Having said that I am going to repeat once again that not everyone that calls themselves a prophet is a prophet. Sometimes we confuse a word for the body for a Word God gives us, personally, for us. Sometimes people try the prophetic scam to make money. I could name names but God has not released me to do so yet. I am praying about that.

I am perplexed by all these prophets who believe they are getting a word from God and it turns out so differently then they told us it would. The election results are what I am referring to today.

If we shared their Word online, that turned out to be false, now we look foolish too.

I am tired of making excuses for these people. When a prophet gives a Word it needs to be truthful. Some of these people are playing the people of God for the money they get from their hits on YouTube.

It’s gonna continue. I for one am gonna take the information in, pray about it, but NO Longer will I share it to increase their hits on You Tube and line their pocketbooks.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie King Miller

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